Re: …Forcing yourself to change…
Yeah, dude, don’t ever be the “nice guy”. People will just step all over you. I was the “nice girl” for ONE year, and I’m still paying the price for it. 
Just now, an old friend of mine calls and is like “Hey, I’m at the library and I need a study buddy - come one over”…then an hour later “Hi…I’ve been like calling your room and no one is picking up…call me back…need someone to study with”…in a really irritated tone, mind you.
Hell, what the hell do people think? I’m not some doggy that follows when someone calls.
Needless to say, I’m studying in THIS building tonite 