Re: Forced versus arranged marriages - our take on it
You create awareness by bringing this up in khutbas during Jumah, during fundraising dinners where people pay $200 a plate to show off how rich they are and anywhere else you feel there are people who will listen.
This isn't common because they don't want to offend the congregation.. and a lot of the time the (usually smaller) mosques themselves here in the UK are run by people who aren't really against it anyway, the same ones who often won't let women in to pray and tend to cater to only one particular ethnic group..
Imo it could easily be stamped out here in the west if it was strongly discouraged by commuinity + religious leaders and the gov clamped down harder.. People seem too scared to tho :(
Re: Forced versus arranged marriages - our take on it
yes....exactly........also..you can't really do much besides not forcing kids yourself........
the new gneration, with different social life...education and reformed values........ will shun it automatically.......its just a matter of time.......
agreed.
We can try our best that force marriages do no happen in our families or communities (though getting involved in another family's matters is a bit dangerous) however, it truly takes time to solve these types of issues. This is an ideology within humans. And removing an idea from certain groups is not easy and nor something that can be done in the short-term.
Re: Forced versus arranged marriages - our take on it
If a girl is allowed to choose her own potential spouse yet she gives her parents permission to do it on her behalf then it is an arranged marriage in the true sense and nothing wrong with it. However, if
a girl never had an option to choose herself (like in most Pakistani families) then its a forced marriage even if she is ok with it.
ps. same applies to guys as well but usually they have more freedom in our society.