forced to have a baby

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@Nad_e_Ali

I have been married for 8 months now. I am 19 at this point and my hubby’s 22, plus he is my cousin. He came from Pakistan and is still struggling to get admission in a good uni. I am also a college student. We are happily married but the issue is that both mine and his parents are pressurizing us to have a baby which we don’t want at this point. My hubby is the only son in his family therefore his parents are eagerly waiting to see their grandchild, and they won’t listen. My father-in-law gets angry with my hubby every time he brings this topic up. We are living with my parents for now since my hubby’s new to the place…he doesn’t have a driver’s license, and can’t afford to live separately because he is the only one working. **I really don’t know what to do right now, what should i do? **any suggestions?

Well…DONT get pregnant for the first thing!

Parents may mean well but they do not have a right to know about your sex life nor to pressure you for grandchildren, esp when you’re both so young and dependent on everyone else… You’re only 19/22 and still have your whole lives ahead of you iA.

You have the ability to make an educated decision..

Consider yourself extremely lucky that you and your husband are on the same page about this.

@Nad_e_Ali

that scares me.. we both love babies . my mom says the same thing that if we use any type of birth control then we might have complications in future. but i don’t completely agree with it. everyone uses it these .

your best bet is using condoms.

@lethal_kamikaze

Never say that u don’t want at this point. I knw two family (our neighbour) who said the same thing we don’t want at this point. they are married 26 years ago and still they don’t have any single child.

The second family had one child at then thy said we don’t want now we’ll take a break. Now the kidz is 8 years old and they r trying for 2nd 1 but nothing happen.

Always pray to Allah SWT! for betterness, if He bless u in this age (at this time) or a later on u couple should be thankful to Him and seek always well-wishes for your kidz.

moreover, Allah SWT! jis ko dena chahy to be-hisaab deta hay or jisay nahi to phir kuch bhi nahi.

Children are a blessing from Allah SWT but as adults, we humans are blessed with the brains and capability of making educated decisions.

Many couples have hte luxury of being satisfied with either having a child or not having a child (well up to a certain point). However, when a couple is practically dependent on everyone else for own basic needs, such as food and shelter due to not being able to work for a decent wage, making a conscious decision to have a child is VERY irresponsible and unfair to the child as well.

And for those couples, it was their choice and their kismet. I’m sure they didn’t deliberately go And have abortions b/c they didnt want the child…