Forced marriages

Lifestyle Relationships
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From the article on BBC news website:

“according to the UK’s Forced Marriage Unit, 65% of all known cases of the practice in the UK involve people of PAKISTANI origin.”

Any thoughts?

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I think Forced is a "relative" term. What I mean is most girls/guys usually already have failed in their relationship (boyfriend/girlfriend) by the time they are 24, 25 and on...

They are still single and are of marriageable age. Parents usually take the beatings of having this called as a "forced marriage" because the girl / guy obviously have a choice to NOT marry but the majority of the BOYS/GIRLS still do marry.

When the partnership in this arranged marriage faces problems - it is termed as "forced marriage" - you have to blame it on someone - rt?

The only difference in this "forced / arranged" relationship is now you cannot get out of this relationship as quickly as you got out when you had a boyfriend / girlfriend WHOM YOU REALLY FELL in love with.

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I read another similar statistic. From all South Asian folks, Pakistanis and Muslims tend to have really high percentages of forced marriages.

Pakistani children just can't say no to parents, we're very obedient. :@:

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Re: Forced marriages

Does this 65% also includes Arranged Marriages too?

Normally they do include arranged marriages in such stats and its very hard for them to understand how can a marraige be arranged? how can a person marry another person without living with him/her for at least 2-3 years?

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yeah i think they include in this category those marriages where these uk nationals are getting married back home as a last resort for any number of reasons( ie. unsucessful relationships, lack of reliable community contacts, just didn't fall in love with anyone etc)

and it is not right that they include this in forced marriages. i think they might do this bcs maybe these kids do marry as a last resort but they are not too happy about it and than like someone said they have to blame someone. or maybe they thought their parents knew what they were doing and then they find out that these trusted relatives back home are far from angels and they know they are stuck so the nearest scapegoat is the parents. even though those parents just tried to do what they considered was in the best interest of their child.

it is tricky because pakistani parents from the beginning always stress to their kids their mahol and culuture. how it is so important to remain beingknown shareef in the community. that means no boyfriends, no dates. that means less or very little interaction with opposite sex. but this very thing which is looked down upon in our culture is the thing that is neded to be done to some extent to find someone who you are cpmfortable with enought to spend your life with.

i think later when it is way too late these kids realised that maybe ami abu's strictness or mental hold on the kids to remain good charctered kids maybe was not in their best interest. as now they have come of marriageable age and must get married soon.

i think the resaentment they feel then transfers into crying out against their parents 'culture'. and so this blame comes about saying they were forced to marry back there because really there parents frowned upon getting married in uk because they really did nott allow them to act in such a way that would entail them to find a suitable partner.

i may not be totally accurate though. i am human. i err also.