nabnab
June 7, 2016, 4:02pm
10
Re: Forced Marriage
I am guessing you are a British citizen and live in the UK, since you said you live outside of Pakistan and 3 of your brothers live in the UK. Trust me on this, you do not have to be forced into anything. Parents don’t understand this sometimes, unfortunately. Being pressured or forced into something builds anger, bitterness and resentment in a person. If you force yourself to accept the choice of your parents, maybe it’ll take ages for you to come to terms with who you’ve married. Sometimes never. And this is the reason why there are so many divorces etc. The partner for whatever reason feels distant, the other partner doesn’t get the attention and love they require; so they go look for it elsewhere. You’re in the UK, you can go report to the Home Office that your family are threatening you to be sent to Pakistan for arranged married. You can go to the Met and tell them your family is threatening you, and get an injunction issued against them.
As for the person you want to marry, is he ready for marriage? If he is, this is the time for him to man up and step up. He needs to have a say in all of this too. Then you’ll know how deep in it you really are, actually you both. No matter what happens, do not let yourself be forced into anything. At the end of the day your parents have spent their life, now it is a question of your life and happiness. Parents will eventually come around, but once you lose the one you truly love, you’ll never be happy with anyone else.
i dont live in UK. i live in Hong Kong, China. Definitely there are aids i can take over here too but i just dont want the situation where people will come looking for my father. I’ll feel really shameful then.
as for the person i want to marry, he is also convincing his family atm but im pretty sure he easily will. I have asked him whether we should nikah in secret but he is not so keen on it as we both know this will create many other issues later.