For those that married outside the family, were your parents ultra-protective...

[soconfused]

Re: For those that married outside the family, were your parents ultra-protective…

@Cupcake

Well let the girl tell her family. If any problems arise about the guys family then tell the girl to tell her family to just meet the guys family and see for themselves what they’re like because well every single family has a fault in them. No ones perfect! there’s not much that can be done really other than just to start the rishta process already and deal with the problems as they come?

@M_was_here

^she was “engaged”, not official with a ring or anything but a baat pakki and it was done when she was 13 without her permission. She was against it from day one so her parents always had a feeling it going to break off eventually even though they still try to convince her on it.

@soconfused : yes, she’s worried about her family thinking his family has “loose character” although his mom is very sweet and religious and loves her, they talk often etc. And this family is not in Pakistan but not in the same country as the girl either; they’re in a long-distance relationship so her parents her less likely to meet his family in Pakistan anyway.

hmmm…well the thing is that they’ll either be fine with it or create a fuss and there’s no way to know until she talks to her parents. If the boy’s family is sharif and doesn’t give any indication or mannerisms that would indicate they’re loose charactered, then they might be okay with it. The only problem I see is that if this girl’s fiance’s family is squeaky clean then there’s always the whole “why are you turning down a good thing for this other boy with the bad family”. But if the girl’s ADAMANT that this is the guy for her, then it can be done if her parents are rational. People create horrible rumors and, sadly, I’ve heard a lot of familys have this “illegitimate” child drama/rumors so maybe the parents will disregard it since it doens’t have anything to do with the BOY and HIS character.