Abu Hurairah Radhiallaho anho says that, on one of his visits to Madina, Ibne Umar came to see him and said, "Do you know why I have come to see you? I have heard Rasulullah Sallallaho alaihe wasallam saying, “If anyone wishes to show kindness to his father who is dead, let him treat his father’s friends in a kindly manner, and (you know that) my father (Umar) was a friend of yours”. (Targheeb).
A Hadith reports Abu Usaid Maalik bin Rabi’ah Radhiallaho anho as saying, "While we were sitting in company with Rasulullah Sallallaho alaihe wasallam, a man of the Banu Salma Tribe came to him and said, “O Rasulullah, is there any way left for me to show kindness to my parents after their death?” He replied, “Yes, you can invoke Allah’s blessings on them, make ‘Istighfaar’ for them (ask Allah’s forgiveness for them), fulfil the promises (if any) made by them with people, treat their relatives and dependents with kindness and show respect to their friends”. (Mishkaat). A version adds: At this the man said, “What an excellent idea!” and Rasulullah Sallallaho alaihe wasallam replied, “Practice it, then”. (Targheeb)
HADITH: 4
Rasulullah Sallallaho alaihe wasallam says,** “If the parents of a person die, or one of them dies, and he has not been dutiful to them, but he goes on asking forgiveness for them and making other supplications (Du’aa) for them, Allah Ta’ala will record him as a dutiful son”.**
Note: How bounteous are the blessings and favours of Allah Ta’ala to His men! Very often, circumstances arise which cause a certain unpleasantness between parents and children, but the parent and children relationship is deep-rooted to allow for permanent estrangement from each other. So, when a man’s father or mother dies, filial love re-asserts itself, he feels deep remorse and is distressed to remember their loving care for himself. Allah Ta’ala has, in His infinite Mercy and Compassion for man, shown a way for redeeming such situations. He has ordained that, if a person prays for Allah’s blessing for his parents after their death, makes ‘Isthighfaar’ for them and, after doing a good deed involving expenditure of money or otherwise, requests Allah to transfer its rewards to their credit (called ‘Eesaal-e-Thawab’), these good deeds will compensate for his failure to fulfil the duties he owed them in their lifetime and he will be recorded as a dutiful son. It is one of the greatest favours of Allah Ta’ala to His men that He has opened a way for the undutiful sons and daughters to atone for their sins, even after the death of their parents when, normally, it is said to be too late.
What a shame would it be if we were too hard-hearted not to avail of this opportunity for atonement! For, there are very few whose behaviour to their parents is always correct and who give their parents their due rights. It is, therefore, advisable that each one of us should make a routine of performing some good deeds regularly and pray to Allah to transfer the blessings earned in this way to the credit of his deceased parents. It would be an excellent routine, in view of its splendid consequences.
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