For those of you who grew up abroad.....

[maait]

Re: For those of you who grew up abroad…

@inspiron

When you visit pakistan how does it go for you?

DO you fit right in? Do you feel like your being judged? I mean I would like to know your experiences and opinions esp with regards to extended family.

I get along with my khalas and phuppas and chaachis, but there are certain cousins who have not been good to my parents and I just cannot get on with them or respect them because they have been bad to my parents and it is awkward.

Also because I am from ‘Bahar’ I always try very hard to dress appropriately,speak in urdu all the time and play close attention to my tameez and also what I say. I DO feel like i am constantly being judged and I try very hard particularly so no one can say anything bad about my parents!

You don’t have to try so hard to appear normal.
I think you are going in the opposite direction, why not keep yourself reserved and let them come up to you and try to get your attention. The one who is extra careful gets to talk to you and others get ignored, this is what normally happens.