Re: For those married couples living with the husband's family...
^ Are your BILs good at saving? It's great that they're enjoying their young lives, but maybe an idea would be to get them to contribute a decent sum every month (for expenses and not the mortgage) and use half of that money for the actual expenses and bank the other half for them. At the end of a couple of years, it'll be a nice nest egg for them to spend on a downpayment or their own wedding.
Re: For those married couples living with the husband's family...
The brother in laws need to pitch in. Time to be a responsible man, yes, even at the "tender" age of "21 or 22"
God, we coddle our men SO MUCH. What happened to the days where the men used to get danday to become real men REAL fast?
Re: For those married couples living with the husband's family...
Hubby didn't want his bros to contribute at first, saying they're young (they're in their early 20s and work full time), and he wants them to enjoy life and just spend on themselves, but I think that they should contribute, at least a bit, so that they can learn to be responsible and not blow their entire income on luxuries. It's good to see that I'm not silly in thinking this. My hubby is the typical elder son and just wants to take care of everything himself.
Definately, they need responsibilities at a young age, if they work full time, they should be contributing something even if it's not that much, will build some sense into them.
Although, i didnt had to contribute, i made a concious decision to make sure i did. This has helped me be a better person and will help me alot in thr future.