Re: "for muslim women, marriage's delicate dance"
It's like discussing this thing with a bunch of kids.
Let's turn things around for a bit......maybe you will see it differently:
If you have daughters....will you let them go out for dinner in mixed company and return at 3 am with the excuse that they got into a dicussion about hadees and it was so informative and compelling that they just couldn't tear themselves away?
(And I know at least two of you that will say, "Sure, I trust my kids." at which point I will show you either two very naive individuals or two individuals that just don't want to admit the point we are trying to make.)
At the end of the day what will end up counting is what societal norms dictate. Whether you like it or not, whether you agree with it or not........
And in generally accepted "decent" society.....anyone, gal or guy, staying out THAT late at night for no "constructive" purpose (i.e. work or schooling) is considered awaara.
So.....how many times over are you going to hell? ;)