(for men)Were You close to your fathers?

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whenever i see men talking to their fathers, it’s such a formal conversation. they’re the same gender so i would figure father-son relationships would be closer…

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i've read several times that generally guys r close to their moms n gals close to their dads. may be opposite gender attraction works in these relationships too.

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i feel like dads lose out a bit, cuz during the teenage years i would think girls get close to their moms and guys are always close to their moms, i've never seen guys being close to their dads.....

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Moved :phati:

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My husband is not close to his dad at all, they're very formal with each other.... mother on the other hand, he is very close to.

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yes.

we hug each other twice a year, every year.

Beat that

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^ :rotfl:

Close to both parents, Mum a bit more but my Dad is cool too :phati:

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:cb: Does that happen on Eids? :stuck_out_tongue:

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I've always thought this as well..

I'm a lot closer to my dad than my mum, I could tell him stuff I'd never dare say to her.. Brother is closer to mum tho..

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My father was super strict growing up, like one of those military dudes. No lovey dovey conversations etc...never a hug or anything like that, hug my dad LOL I can't even imagine, just on Eid I guess.

When my dad would come home we would all just run away to our bedrooms, hmmm i guess that isn't really nice, but we were afraid of him. However hindsight being 20/20, it was for the best, as his kids didn't end up becoming drug dealers or losers. All got educated and made something of themselves.

He always gave me good and practical advise, esp regarding work education etc..but there was always a barrier, like I could never joke around with my dad or share deep problems.

If I wanted to have a heart to heart conversation I'd always turn to my mother.

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Again yes indeed.

30 years ago he owned a classic luxury car with boombastic features.

I used to sit on my seat adjacent to driver and it was fun ride. (It was automatic so there was a seat in place of gear lever area )

I agree that sons /fathers are usually not expressive in affection and all but there exist a strong bond and co-relation.

I can co-relate with him in many aspects.

He loves tourism, so do I
He loves Movies, so do I
His acute fondness for reading , ventures, Photography , Praising women and paying tribute to Almighty Lord for enabling us to fulfill our few desires.

He is admireable person with a remarkable life. May Allah keep him fit and healthy. ameen

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I am unfortunately not too close with the father. reasons?

To me key factor is that time. Time that ammi has spent with us and abbu was unable to. When mom was used to be with us (i.e childhood, early school etc), taking care of us, talking to us, cooking for us, taking us to playgrounds etc, Abbu was busy working hard to provide us shelter and good future and he has earned a lot of respect for that.

Now I might be more close to my mom but I wana be like my father. He has worked hard for what I am today. ( :teary1: abbu yaad aa rahey hain )

btw, being close or not-so-close to someone is no gauge of love for him/her. You can be formal with someone and still love them a world!

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My dad's been like a buddy to me. We can discuss pretty much everything, and I hope my kids (sons in this case) think of me in the same light as I think of my father.

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I do not remember my dad ever hugged me , but I do remember him giving me kiss on my forehead. He was very strict and maintained a line which we 6 brother could never cross. But he was very good provider.
I also remember he would take me with him wherever he go which created that strong bond I had with him. May Allah grant him high place in Jannat . Ameen.

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Yes.

Mirch :smilestar: that how fathers’ love is , they don’t hug and stuff :phati:

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i am very close to my abaa jaan. Can talk with him about any issue and we do.

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i guess it just depends on the father's personality then, if he's more expressive with his feelings then i guess they would even express love for sons too.

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No

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don’t write so much Iconoclast bhai, that’s too much detail, it’s taking up the whole page…it’ll take some of us days to read everything you’ve written :hinna:

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I am a man of few words.