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ok if a guy really likes a girl.. instead of asking her out why dont they send a rishta to the girls family through their family…

because is’nt it respectful that way?

because it is the shareef and decent guys that send their rishtas instead of approaching a girl themselves in order to ask them out!

only the shareef girls will refuse and mind if such a guy asks them out!

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Good for you :k:

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rejection is not something easy to digest......so he has to ask before ...

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A guy would handle rejection more easily without his whole family knowing about it, the safer option is to ask the girl herself as Nomica said. Plus what sane guy would send a rishta without ever having talked to the girl? What if she turns out to be the complete opposite of what he imagined and backing out would cause further embarrassment to both families? Asking out a girl or talking to her does not suddenly make a guy non-shareef and unworthy.

Anyway, whatever floats your boat...at this rate I'm sure you'll accept the first rishta that comes your way.

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if a guy wants to marry a girl he/his parents should ask her parents for the rishta. you should not just go out randomly with anyone who has asked you out (whether a boy asks a girl or a girl asks a boy). if he thinks she is approachable perhaps he can ask her that i would like to marry you but before we can get married i think few meetings will be good so that we can know each other and we can find out if we can live a good married life or not. if its going to be a no she should tell him straight away (i am married, dont want to get married yet, marriage is already fixed) but if its yes then she should tell her parents as to what he said (similarly the guy should take his parents permission too before taking any steps)

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See I knew I was doing something wrong when I asked out girls. I should have sent in my mommy to ask her out on a date for me!

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I just hit them over the head with my club and drag them by the hair to the cave. Cuts out the middle man that way. GRUNTS

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RAWR…that’s so manly. No, really…so sad…so very sad. And if they don’t wake up, it’s murder. :no:

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One less mouth to feed then TEARS A PIECE OF RAW MEAT AND BITES DOWN ON IT

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Sigh Cavemen....so much smarter than we give them credit for.

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:k: :smiley:

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Um...no. Its archaic...not respectful. Its old desi ignorant culture...not Islam.

Why is it considered asking out automatically if a guy simply aproaches a girl he is interested in? Why is that asking out? It can simply be that he wants to make sure she even likes him or he even likes her personality before getting his mama, chacha, taya and all of the village involved?

What if the girl doesnt like him? What if he is different and not appealing in the conventional sort of way? Imagine the amount of rishtas he would be getting rejections from! To be quite honest, its just a way for girls to boost their self-esteem by rejecting perfectly capable men based on superficial criteria. Its selfish to expect him to put himself out there like that without even giving him a clue as to whether the girl likes him or not. Its not fair to him and his family.

In this day and age to expect guy and girl to NOT speak to each other or have some sort of chemistry is ludicrous. Islam gives us permission to speak, talk and more. If we choose to ignore that, then we're actually rejecting what Islam is and making what people call our own deR eent ki masjid. Where does it say in Islam to marry someone blindly?

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I really can't understand why some ppl are making out that walking into a marriage completely blindly is some sort if ideal.. It defies logic that marrying someone u haven't at least had a decent conversation with (or even seen lol) is apparently seen as a plus and besides don't these ppl ever talk to members of the opposite sex when they have to go shopping or at work or uni, how is it ok to talk to those others but not ur prospective huband who u'll (hopefully) be spending the rest of your life with?? It's not 'noble' or 'decent' imo, more naive and possibly stupid..

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^ yea…agreed with both of the above..

i would want to go on a few dates before rejecting her :bummer:

P.S :tomato: