Re: For girls- from those of us who dealt with parental issues on marriage,etc
Great story, Amelie. I'm so happy for you. Many of our parents have such a fear over their children picking their own spouses. But once a child has the courage to go through with it, the parents almost always realize that they were the ones being unreasonable. I'm sure you will be an example in your community for many girls.
Re: For girls- from those of us who dealt with parental issues on marriage,etc
i think it worked out great for u cuz over time your parents realized how unreasonable they were being… weren’t giving anyone else a chance.
unfortunately, some parents go thru worse cuz of their kids and the reasons are not at all unreasonable but very serious (like marrying into a different religion etc).
im glad you took a stand for your rights and found someone who could keep both u and ure folks happy…not only a nice read.. but a positive read - fighting for the right reasons.. had you fallen in love with a hindu or even a xtian, and fought with ure folks that this is who u wanna marry, im sure the end would have been very different…
that’s what i like bout ure story… handled the entire situation very maturely keeping a lot of stuff in mind.
congrats!! 
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Impulse,
I think people want you to realize that life after marriage isn’t always a romance novel/hindi film and no matter how you meet the person you marry…that is true.
I have friends who have arranged, love, semi-arranged introduction marriages and looking at the ones that have worked out, ones that haven’t and ones that are “tough” marriages…there is honestly no SET rule what works and what doesn’t. Depends on you, how well you pick the person you’re with and THEN most importantly in my opinion how you and your husband handle the relationships, the arguments/disagreements…(those are normal and will happen).
In my case, my husband and i are really happy, but we do have disagreements…silly to serious things…they get resolved…we don’t let them SIT…and we both use alot of gentle humor to ease the tension…constructive and proactive communication…
to be honest, i can’t take credit for it…i’ve learned alot from him on handling the relationship
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Amelie, all i can say is that i am sure alot of girls and guys can relate to your story here. Thanks for sharing it with us and being so inspiring. I dont know abt others but i truly appreciate you showing that taking steps in the right direction and trying on your own to make it happen truly does work out. May Allah bless you and your husband with a happy life, Ameen 
Re: For girls- from those of us who dealt with parental issues on marriage,etc
I saw a movie named "My big Greek Fat wedding"
It had the same story as yours.
Re: For girls- from those of us who dealt with parental issues on marriage,etc
Wow, that's very inspiring Amelie. I'm glad things worked out so well for you Mashallah. Because it's really by the Grace of God that everything worked out. You had faith and strength to remain hopefull. I hope you helped somebody out there with your story.
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well, went through more or less the same situation and the emotional blackmail that accompanied,was the worst thing I ever experienced in my life. The difference is that I didn't settle down...
As for emotional abuse...lets just say I have got accustomed to it :) Perhaps they are right, who knows...
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Hanh! I thought you are already married. Why is it inspiring for you now?
Re: For girls- from those of us who dealt with parental issues on marriage,etc
Ur lucky that ur parents finally accept ur hubz coz that
doesnt happends a lot.
Btw is ur Hubby a desi?
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Thanks for sharing. Very touching story. That's awesome it worked out for you ! May Allah always keep you happy with the one you love. Ameen.
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marriage is a total tango for me. so i refuse to learn to dance. but, in imagining the bright side is
u see the moves of the other!
& for the wise that should be a word of caution, a forewarning in disguise.
if u did indeed get married, foe whtever reason, u and u alone can make or break the marriage, that i do believe in. it is a double sword, but it can be made a bed of roses.
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couldn't have said it better :)
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I disagree with this comment Dushwari. From my relationship experiences, you cannot make it work if the other person involved doesnt want to make it work as well. It takes two to tango, you just cant do it on your own. Then it wont be a happy relationship, it will be more like a compromise. Its impossible to help someone when they dont want your help.
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You forgot to mention the wonderful addition to the family that's coming soon!
hugs
this post reminded me of the chicago trip.
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I didn’t say inspiring for ME… I just said inspiring (for someone out there). You wanted my sob story didn’t you?
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Thanks all, i really wanted people to know it does and can work out.
Saima,
I do think he wants your sob story :)
Muzna
Hugs back and thanks!
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No. Just teasing without malice.
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^^ Ok no problem. I have no secrets anyways.