After following the thread about if you should leave your little one in a room alone to sleep; I was wondering if the group who oppose the idea of a child having their own room at a young age can share their experiences of how life is after you start sharing your room with your little one.
Without going into too much information has it effected your relationship with your husband? When do you plan to introduce your child to their own space? Did your parents share their room with you and do you think that has influenced your opinion on the subject?
By no means is this a thread to get at any member, I’m a new mum and looking at finding out other parents opinions.
Re: for all those who share their bedroom with their baby or young child?
we plan to keep our child in our room not even because we want him to be near to us day and night, but also because we dont have a separate room for him in this house .... lolx :P
and yes my parents shared their room with us, like most paki parents did at that time. dont know about hubby's side.
i dont see why people are opposing the idea of letting the little one sleep with them
Re: for all those who share their bedroom with their baby or young child?
I have shared the bedroom with my parents for a long timein my childhood. Apparently, I have found no issues from my end and neither do i feel my parent's relation strained. But yes being with my parents throughout, gave me a much secure feeling and a very comfortable sleep always. I still miss that time specially when i slept with my mother. It can be worked out.
Maybe it differs in your brought up - Pakistani families share everything with each other, there are concepts of joint families, cousin marriage etc so kind of families are open to each other and do not raise the flag of privacy and space all the time. Where as western culture focuses more on privacy, space, distance and if you are developed that way you give a preference to it. Both the ways are workable and none can be declared wrong.
Because we were always in front of the eyes of our parents, i can proudly say that we siblings turned out to be way better human beings than many of our own school fellows, our own cousins, our own neighbours and people of our age. Most teens start with the wrong doings only when they have those privacy constraints with them, many talk all night on the phone, chat away with strangers, tend to fall in to wrong plots just because they have enough privacy that they can hide a large sector of their life. My preference would always be sharing compared to privacy.
Re: for all those who share their bedroom with their baby or young child?
I slept with my grandmother (who was widowed) once I became a lil older. That way she would have company and I would hear all sorts of stories from her.
We plan on doing the same with my son, with his grandparents once he grows older and sleeps through the night