Follow-up Question to the kewlsolara thread.

Why are there promises of virgins for good muslims.
Often the Non Muslim media plays these words into a negative light.
I.E. Martyrs (sp) are lured by promises of virgins after death.

Isnt paradise and the love for God beyond such human urges?
To me anyway, I dont think giving my life for virgins is good enough..
Giving my Life for something ALlah has taught us is reward enough in itself.

Can someone please shed some light on this matter?
Referances would be appreciated.