So girls who get married get to see their parents more often as compared to guy’s parents. Mostly girl’s parents are not living so far but at few hours drive so its not that difficult for them to visit their parents every now & then. but sometimes they are far away & they still visit them often. Girls feel its their haq to visit their parents but what about the guy. I get it girl left her parents but when the guy is abroad working & all living away from his parents dpn’t you think he deserves to visit his parents too as he left them for a girl to live in a separate house? But I rarely see that happening, guys don’t visit back home that much but girls are visiting parents every other month. And when the guy wants to bring his parents from back home so they can live with them & see their grandkids, girls have a problem with that too & try to make their visits short.
All the married folks who live abroad, how often you & your wife visit parents? The families I have come across are crying mothers mostly who are just seeing their sons & grandkids on skype half the time & they visit after years as they have a job & can’t take a leave every other day to visit them while girls being a housewife can go see their parents along with kids ofcourse after every few months. Don’t you think its unfair?
Frankly speaking..i don’t understand the issue at all. If a woman or a guy wants to visit their parents..they can. Provided whatever their circumstances and situation is.
But i kinda get your question. Well guys are bread-winners..they gota take care of their family…so it becomes sometimes hard to afford to see your parents often. Nothing personal.
What type of jobs do these guys have? I don’t know any guy who has a professional job and does not get at least 2 weeks of vacation every year…some even more (My husband gets 7 weeks). And of course, in the U.S. most workers are off for several days during Thanksgiving and usually a week or more during Christmas.
Ummm…is this thread about guy’s parents living with the him OR being able to visit him? Why can’t the guy bring his parents over for a visit so they get to see the grandkids?
And what is your definition of a “short” visit? I don’t know any woman who complains if the in-laws come over for 1-2 weeks (my in-laws usually stay with us for a week when they visit).
Marriage isn’t a jail that kaidi number so and so can only meet someone only at prescribed times. You don’t kill all other relationships just because someone gets married. The unfortunate truth is children only meet their parents when they want to. If the child doesn’t visit that means he doesn’t want to.
The general consensus in my mother’s ladies group is women with sons only are not particularly lucky. Their unmarried sons with no external pressures barely visit. So it’s not just married guys that don’t like spending time with their parents.
We spend 3 weeks every year visiting family. I get to spend 1.5 weeks with my family and 1.5 with in laws, husband spends whole 3 weeks with his family and only visits mine for one lunch or dinner.
If a guy has no probems (such as financial, health etc.) and he is not visiting his crying mother - then he is nothing but a UKP. On top of that if he is using his wife as an excuse, there’s only one advice for him: Grow a freaking spine and stop hiding behind your wifes dupatta.
If someone wants to visit their parents on a regular base they will figure it out - no matter how busy their lifestyle is.
its just about the circumstances. someone living in a different country than his/her parents be it a girl or a guy, will definitely get to see the parents less as compared to the ones living in the same city/country.
If any wife is stopping the husband to visit his parents or to bring his parents to stay with them, is indeed unfair and any husband stopping the wife to visit or bring her parents to stay with them is equally unfair.
Girls who complain if in-laws stays for longer periods lets say one month, 2 months etc, then all you can say is that there will always be a bunch of people who will find excuses to complain no matter what.
From what I’ve seen with girl’s family or guy’s family being visited more than the other, it’s more an issue of proximity (and possibly cost). So it’s normal with one family being visited more if they’re 6-8 hours drive away then someone who is 10+ hour flight away–nothing wrong with that. In cases where both the girl and the guy live away from their respective parents who are both overseas, they visit the guys parents as much if not more than they visit the girls parents. At least this is what I’ve come across.
if you need me to respect your parents, then you have to respect mine. Whatever the protocol you have for your parents, it has to be for mine too. Its not a one way street. So if you are visiting your parents every now and then there shouldn’t be even a discussion that i can’t visit mine.
Most of the guys make this excuse that the investigation process have become so tough after 9/11 so they just don’t want to take the risk. Of course these guys are not yet US nationals.
I am talking about those couples too who have their wives from mid-eastern countries or from canada,australia & UK (Pakistani origin) but guys parents are in Pakistan. Those ladies seem to visit their parents quite often but guys just don’t. If you see then the travel is as long as the wife is having but I don’t know why guys just don’t visit that much as their wives visit. May be you guys are right, they just don’t want to meet their parents.
We assumed it based on what YOU wrote. If all your’re wondering is why the men you know don’t visit their parents often then just say that. No reason to get into what you think girl’s feel, what they’re doing, what sacrifice the guy made for the girl etc.
As you also mentioned, those girls don’t have the same constraints with job etc. so they’re free(er) to get up and go while their husbands don’t have that same liberty.
