Focus Group - when is the right age to ..

[Marmalade]

Re: Focus Group - when is the right age to ..

@Mirch

Girls should be taught cooking because this is what is expected from a perfect desi wife. Boys can learn if they are interested. I learned it out of my necessity, my son learned because he does not like desi food so he makes his food of his own liking.

Boys should be encouraged to help themselves and not always have to rely on their mothers and sisters for food. Cooking is a life skill that could come in handy some day and inshAllah I shall start teaching all my future children how to cook (basic dishes at the very least) once they reach the age of 12/13. (I’d be a bit weary about teaching them how to cook any younger than this age because I don’t want them to mess about with the stove and possibly hurt themselves) I don’t see why this is a problem with some people. Is it zulm? Do you also believe that boys shouldn’t ever be told to wash dishes or clean up after themselves?

In my family, my siblings and I take turns when doing household chores. Both my parents work so most of the cleaning and some of the cooking is done by us siblings. Sometimes I do the dishes, Sometimes my brother does. Sometimes my sister does. Same with preparing lunch or breakfast/dusting/vacuuming/snow shoveling/sweeping.

Yes, desi women are expected to do all these chores after they are married. But that doesn’t mean that parents should insist that only their daughters learn to cook for the family while their sons sit and play video games.