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Dang my wife treats me the same inhuman way every weekend and doesn't serve me breakfast till 11:00 am. Whom should I email about this suffering?
We're in the same boat. Share the email address with me too if you happen to find someone to email about this. I also don't get breakfast until after 11AM on weekends. Sometimes I'm sleeping past that time but that's beside the point.
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So you grew up in a Scandinavia town and were unaware of the tradition and customs of gender segregation and the consequences a female has to live with, why could you not get emotional support from your male friends or families. It seems obvious that you exploited her vulnerability. Emotional intimacy is a lot stronger and more durable than sexual. Look at 20 yrs after you still want to thrust yourself in her life.
I really don't understand from where you got the idea that I exploited her vulnerability. I don't want to thrust myself anywhere if you get the point.
Sometimes the kind of experiences that one might have had makes it difficult to understand that not every relationship is about exploiting vulnerabilities.
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From my perspective, I believe the best decision as some posters here have suggested is to walk away. It might not be the best decision, but then to interfere again might be counterproductive.
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Mind your own business. It is not your place to intervene. It has been 2 decades.
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I really don't understand from where you got the idea that I exploited her vulnerability. I don't want to thrust myself anywhere if you get the point. Sometimes the kind of experiences that one might have had makes it difficult to understand that not every relationship is about exploiting vulnerabilities.
If your actions have hurt someone's reputation and life than you cannot be considered a friend or a well wisher, it I very common there to blame the entire society rather than self evaluation In a society where it is frowned up for man and woman to hang and certain males trying their darndest to score companionship of a female. It seems very shady for you to use this excuse to spend loads of emotional time with your dying friends sister and causing her badnaami, the price of which she is still paying. You used the word emotional dependence that only results from extreme emotional intimacy and is very unhealthy. I am not even emotionally dependent on my own wife and also my children aren't emotionally dependent on us. When it is friends, sisters, mothers and wives we ought to scrutinize our actions to ensure that we are not going to cause disrepute.
She has thrived in a marriage where husband is mentally handicapped Fil physically abused her and death of her young brother She became financially successful despite that, so what makes you think she is in need of your guidance.
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If your actions have hurt someone's reputation and life than you cannot be considered a friend or a well wisher, it I very common there to blame the entire society rather than self evaluation** In a society where it is frowned up for man and woman to hang and certain males trying their darndest to score companionship of a female.** It seems very shady for you to use this excuse to spend loads of emotional time with your dying friends sister and causing her badnaami, the price of which she is still paying. You used the word emotional dependence that only results from extreme emotional intimacy and is very unhealthy. I am not even emotionally dependent on my own wife and also my children aren't emotionally dependent on us. When it is friends, sisters, mothers and wives we ought to scrutinize our actions to ensure that we are not going to cause disrepute.
She has thrived in a marriage where husband is mentally handicapped Fil physically abused her and death of her young brother She became financially successful despite that, so what makes you think she is in need of your guidance.
You are speaking for yourself when you say the bold part.
Some people do not have the necessity to clutch to emotional trauma to form a normal relationship with a person from the other sex. If you think that the world is a place where every relationship is viewed through the eyes of se* it is time that you go out and lead a normal life. The emotional baggage of leading the life of a loner might be tough. It is a very small section of the society and I do not have anything but pity for people who think like this.
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Why can't this fil make his own breakfast, if he can get on internet and find your contact info, he can definitely make his own breakfast too.
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You are speaking for yourself when you say the bold part. Some people do not have the necessity to clutch to emotional trauma to form a normal relationship with a person from the other sex. If you think that the world is a place where every relationship is viewed through the eyes of se* it is time that you go out and lead a normal life. The emotional baggage of leading the life of a loner might be tough. It is a very small section of the society and I do not have anything but pity for people who think like this.
I live in a society where there is no gender segregation and people who exploit vulnerable people aren't respected. Your actions caused her badnaami and hardship for the rest of her life. Friends don't do that. To prove your disregard for the rules of that society you did not have to destroy your dying friends sisters life...I don't buy this bs about the only way you could grieve was by sobbing on your friends sisters shoulder. Did you not know that sticking to her will bring her disrepute. You did cost her the reputation so does it matter if it wasn't physical?
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I live in a society where there is no gender segregation and people who exploit vulnerable people aren't respected. Your actions caused her badnaami and hardship for the rest of her life. Friends don't do that. To prove your disregard for the rules of that society you did not have to destroy your dying friends sisters life...I don't buy this bs about the only way you could grieve was by sobbing on your friends sisters shoulder. Did you not know that sticking to her will bring her disrepute. You did cost her the reputation so does it matter if it wasn't physical?
Let me make this simple for you. I do not have to sob on my dying friend's sister's shoulder to get a relationship. That might be the case with people who view every relationship as form for having sex. You buying this BS or not does not make a difference to me. it just shows the kind of mentality you have which is not something that I would like to have.
You say that you live in a society where there is no gender segregation. Then why is it so hard for you to understand that relationships are not always about sex.
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Let me make this simple for you. I do not have to sob on my dying friend's sister's shoulder to get a relationship. That might be the case with people who view every relationship as form for having sex. You buying this BS or not does not make a difference to me. it just shows the kind of mentality you have which is not something that I would like to have. You say that you live in a society where there is no gender segregation. Then why is it so hard for you to understand that relationships are not always about sex.
You had mentioned yourself that you hanging out with her caused rumors of an affair with you, she suffered a bad reputation because of you spending inordinate amount of time with her, either someone is a sister or not. I have seen like a sister or like a brother excuse used a little bit too much for my liking. Friends take care that they dont cause dishonor for a friends sister, let alone a dying friend. People like me have never used a friends death to hang with their female family members. My best friend just died and I communicate with his wife thru my female family members.