Re: First Wife's Permission
Just because us women decide to be stupid and stay unaware of our rights is not something we can blame on others. Seriously, a lot of research, reading and negotiations are needed before getting married/signing the nikkah contract.
In addition, many women are unaware of the fact (I believe) that they have the right to divorce (not exactly khula alone) the husband. There is a box that on the nikkah form that allows women to either choose to right or let it go. Unfortunately, I heard in Pakistan, many don't even bother asking the women and check it off (for no) anyway.