Salaam All,
My hubby is a very good husband and person. Love him in every and any way possible. As most of you know now.. we are having our first child. It was more his wanting then mine.. I’d rather tie up a few loose ends before I did this..but thats another thread.
The problem is .. he doesnt understand the changes my body is going through. He thinks that I can still do everything I could before. IE. cleaning, billing and etc. But I get tired..
He also doesnt understand my craving. Which isnt for any food but I want him home on time for myself. He is a workaholic !!!
How can I get him to see my side? I’ve tried talking to him but it doesnt seem to make any sense…
You have to take him to some of the classes that local hospitals offer to soon to be parents. In those classes they not only go over some of the complications of pregnancy, they also focus on educating the spouses about their wife's condition. Trust me those classes will help.
The good news is that he will do much better the next time around.
Muniya if these are your initial months, do not despair.... the nausea will subside, you'd be able to eat more and feel all energetic and 'uppity' in a matter of a weeks.. so you can get back to taking care of chores.. in fact it's better you keep up and about .. helps tremendously with labor.
The 'bad' news for him though is that after the first months you'd 'need' him more often.. coughcoughwinkwink... I'm sure he can make time for that!!
One of my aunties also confided that after the first three months, she felt a little better and was able to do more, but still had to rest a lot. Bt in the final three months, she said she was a burst of energy!hehe In her final month, even though she was the size of a small barrel;) she cleaned and decorated and entertained and did everything around the house! The doctors called this "Nesting Syndrome" and said that pregnant women often get the urge to tidy things to get ready for baby. Enjoy your changes, and maybe hubby just needs some education. There is a wonderful book aunty used with her hubby - "What to Expect When You're Expecting..." Good luck and congrats! Don't forget that after the baby comes, there may be an intial period of sleep loss and emotional changes - but I hear that those improve in about 6 weeks after baby arrives. I pray for the best for you and your husband
