Re: First Relationship/Break Up
When you are dating, it is common to pose more sincere and better than you actually are. If this is the attitude while dating, the real person might actually be worse.
Re: First Relationship/Break Up
PCG did u notice how she downplayed flirting ??? as "wordplay" ????
To me... I would kick Angelina Julie out, if she goes on flirting with my friends.
It is kind of insulting.
Ask this sista, every time he uses the word "insult" is their a guy in the scenario?? or at least a wordplay involved.
Honey we men are just a human... believe it or not.... If I was in love and I had to say word flirt for my beloved, I would be pretty much dead in side. Or at least relationship would be dead at that point.. where I start feeling that GF is flirting.
Just try putting your self in our shoes.
PlatStation:: Boys get ready to protect me....or I am dead...or register me for witness protection plan. :(
Thank you all for your input. When I posted that a couple of days ago, I was feeling miserable. I did not mean to make him sound like some sort of a monster. He is a great guy, and any girl would be lucky to have him. The only problem we had was that as in Cutegurl's case, we were simply not compatible.
I couldn't stop myself from contacting him one last time, because I was extremely worried about him. I called him and we spoke for quite a long time, and since he was calm this time around, it was easier to talk to him. He finally understood what I had known all along, that we are two very different people. We could work on our differences of course, but he is simply too stubborn to change himself even a little, or maybe simply unwilling to put any effort into the relationship. I really have tried hard, changing so many small things about me but I never saw him bend on any issue. I told him that yesterday and he agreed with what I said, but he did not say anything more. He never said that he was willing to work towards our relationship. All he said was that he understood, and that he would always love me and he even thought it was for the better. I don't feel any happier now than I did when I initially started this thread, but now I feel at peace with myself. I would love to be his friend, but at the moment, it is simply not possible. Just thinking about him makes me sad, talking to him or being close to him in any way would be torture. But I am hoping with time we could put all this behind us and become good buddies.
Thanks once again for the comments. It feels good to take out all that is inside you anonymously, without having to deal with biased opinions or the fear of being judged ...
Re: First Relationship/Break Up
Hajii, I am glad you two were able to resolve (dissolve) it in a civil manner. It takes a lot of courage and vision to end relationships that have a chance of going bad or not working at all.
Good luck in the future.
Re: First Relationship/Break Up
And then you'll meet the next guy and forget all about this one. Its nice that you ended it on a civil tone.
Just move on and don't think about him, otherwise, you'll be back here in a week telling us how you're together again and he's still acting like an idiot.
oh don’t you worry about that, my head is hurting now… but tomorrow I will do it.. 