with a rishta prospective…
How likely are you to figure out from that one meeting if you’re attracted to the other person and if they are the one?
Do people need to meet a few times, or is one meeting enough to make a decision?
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One was enough in my case.
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I think you know right away if you're at least physically attracted to them. You instantly know whether you find a random person on the streets or in a store to be attractive, or whether you find a celeb on TV to be more or less attractive than another....this realization does not require you to get to know that person...it's the same with a prospective rishta. You even have this inner awareness as to whether you immediately found the person physically attractive before you even got to talking to them...or whether that there was initially no strong feeling of attraction but that it developed after getting to know them a bit. There is a difference and you can detect it within you.
Now in terms of compatibility, that's not instant...it takes more time. You might find that you really, really click with the person in one meeting and you might have a better idea after a few interactions.
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1st or second meetings are good enough
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Half a meeting was enough for me.
Half in a sense that everybody was there and I had no chance to talk to now my lovely wife and mother of my 3 children.
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Just one from my side; she wanted another to talk about her education and career. It takes a lot of work to make any relationship work. It wasn't easy but I cannot imagine myself with anybody else.
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1 meeting? damn .. are you all in 50s/60s?
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1 meeting? damn .. are you all in 50s/60s?
No, just the very romantic, love at first sight people!
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Physical attraction yes, but a mutual understanding and things that actually matter like goals in life, compatibility, family, personal questions will all take a few meetings to get out there in the open.
I think even if you are not attracted to a person at first, they still have a chance to make up for that if they are kind and have common goals or interests that match with yours. Some people get so infatuated with how someone looks that they overlook or don't pay attention to serious questions that they might need to know or get off their own chest.
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No, just the very romantic, love at first sight people!
lol just like bollywood where hero falls in love with a chick he saw at a train station
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I have met so many guys, and in that first meeting, felt NOTHING for them. That includes the ones I nearly married, btw. :-/
In a few cases, even after a few meetings, still didn't feel the spark. Not like I have for prior crushes where I KNOW I have an attachment/fondness for the person.
I figured you need a few meetings at least.
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I have met so many guys, and in that first meeting, felt NOTHING for them. That includes the ones I nearly married, btw. :-/
In a few cases, even after a few meetings, still didn't feel the spark. Not like I have for prior crushes where I KNOW I have an attachment/fondness for the person.
I figured you need a few meetings at least.
Guys will generally be interested in anything with a pulse. Unless he is getting regular action on the side. ;)
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Guys will generally be interested in anything with a pulse. Unless he is getting regular action on the side. ;)
how did you come by this?
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Guys will generally be interested in anything with a pulse. Unless he is getting regular action on the side. ;)
Mm...huh?
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wut kinda guyz hv u met so far!!
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One meeting is enough for me.
This spark/love at first sight is overrated.
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One meeting is never enough. I am FAR from the decision making state of mind, of any sort. If it's a really attractive guy, I'd feel attracted right away, but for more average looking people, I'd wait to get to know them better to see how attracted I am.
But who makes a decision solely on physical attraction anyway?
I have also realized that I need aboout 6-8 months to actually get to a point where I can imagine myself marrying the person, that is IF the connection is amazing.
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Guys will generally be interested in anything with a pulse. Unless he is getting regular action on the side. ;)
Maybe if they're desperate..
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Mm...huh?
I am trying to make sense. Let me try again.
For marriage, guys tend to overlook physical features. There is a famous saying "bistar mein sab aik hee tarhan nazar aati hein" applies. If he has agreed to meet you in person after seeing your pic, you have met the bar.
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For men it's first 5 mins if she is not talking and first 5 seconds if she is.