So you know how everyone forms first impressions on each other…well I have some major issues with that…
Everytime I meet someone I interpret them the wrong way…and afterwards I slowly start to find out that there the exact opposite of what I perceived them to be like!!!
For those who dont understand what I’m trying to say…as I myslef am quite confused…I’ll give you an ex) so lets say you think this old man is a sweetheart…and he’s always smiling and talking to you and you think wow, what a nice, cute old man…then afterwards you find out that ok…he’s really just a perve…
OR
You think this girl is just so sweet and sincere and she really cares etc…and she turns out to be a sly…cunning…meanie!!
It’s quite frusterating!! And I don’t know why it happens…is it cause…everyone tries to be something there not???
Does this happen to others or am I just a really bad judge of character!!!
yeah malika ... ukinda have to learn with time ... usually people put their best foot forward when they meet someone new ... so yeah keep that in mind and just see how they are like ... and honestly u can not judge anyone by just one or two meetings
Coldfire and Libran: Yea ok that makes sense...but dont you think that after 21 yrs I would have figured it out by now?? lol I don't think I'm that slow of a learner!!
Jimmy: (btw) love the name lol!! anywho...i'm assuming that my answer was wrong in that science quiz....haha I was too lazy to count...just took a random guess! But what does that have to do with first impressions!! :D
Icicle: It's hard for me not to be trusting....its just my nature!! But I can take things slow!
I think it varies depending on your personality...like for e.g in my case, I'm pretty quiet and reserved when it comes to meeting strangers, it takes me a while to open up to people so I try not to form an opinion on anyone right off the bat...that said, there are always times when you meet someone and you automatically think 'man this person sounds like a jerk' or 'this gal talks too much - I'm sure she's the kind who loves telling tales' etc -- thats bound to happen.
Dont think anything is too wrong with that...you just call it as you see it I guess. With time, you sort of get to work out the correct first impression on people....anyway no one's perfect...which is why I think it helps to be polite but stay reserved with strangers until you get to know them better..then you have a better idea who's a jerk and who isent....that works for me and I'm a guy !
I think it varies depending on your personality...like for e.g in my case, I'm pretty quiet and reserved when it comes to meeting strangers, it takes me a while to open up to people so I try not to form an opinion on anyone right off the bat...that said, there are always times when you meet someone and you automatically think 'man this person sounds like a jerk' or 'this gal talks too much - I'm sure she's the kind who loves telling tales' etc -- thats bound to happen.
Dont think anything is too wrong with that...you just call it as you see it I guess. With time, you sort of get to work out the correct first impression on people....anyway no one's perfect...which is why I think it helps to be polite but stay reserved with strangers until you get to know them better..then you have a better idea who's a jerk and who isent....that works for me and I'm a guy !
Great Advice, yea I do tend to jump to conclusions!! But the funny thing is that when I am shy and reserved ppl think I'm stuck up!! So I'm trying to get out of that shell...and its pretty hard!!!
Great Advice, yea I do tend to jump to conclusions!! But the funny thing is that when I am shy and reserved ppl think I'm stuck up!! So I'm trying to get out of that shell...and its pretty hard!!!
I had the same problem at one point actually...in my first year @ university, my roomates thought I was a snob...they said they used to gimme the finger behind my back cos I would just smile or nod my head at them when I walked in and would go straight to my room...lol...funny stuff! We laugh about it now...eventually once we got to know each other..we all became pretty close...and they understood thats just how I am....not a snob just kinda reserved till I get to know people !
You're bound to run into the same thing but its part of the game I guess!
But you know what...your right! So what if I grew up in the west...I have one of the strictest families ever...but I still love em to bits!! I guess I haven't developed that awareness... shrugs
Coldfire and Libran: Yea ok that makes sense...but dont you think that after 21 yrs I would have figured it out by now?? lol I don't think I'm that slow of a learner!!
Who set such a bar?
And well, only God is the best judge of us all, so we are bound to misinterpret/misjudge/mislead... The more you travel, the more you leave your world, explore & observe your surroundings, the more you get to know and learn, and then you still get to know/learn that you ought/have to learn so much more. Thus you become a bit of a wise a$$, and thus the wiser you get, the better you get to judge, everything else including yourself.
So you know how everyone forms first impressions on each other...well I have some major issues with that...
Everytime I meet someone I interpret them the wrong way...and afterwards I slowly start to find out that there the exact opposite of what I perceived them to be like!!!
For those who dont understand what I'm trying to say...as I myslef am quite confused....I'll give you an ex) so lets say you think this old man is a sweetheart...and he's always smiling and talking to you and you think wow, what a nice, cute old man....then afterwards you find out that ok...he's really just a perve...
OR
You think this girl is just so sweet and sincere and she really cares etc...and she turns out to be a sly...cunning...meanie!!
It's quite frusterating!! And I don't know why it happens...is it cause...everyone tries to be something there not???
Does this happen to others or am I just a really bad judge of character!!!!
Try not to form your opinion quickly.
Don't trust people fully and this is the secret to success.
its not about first impressions ... or impressions at all ... perhaps you are too trusting and too believing ....
Here's an honest advise : first impressions do not exist , because anyone meeting another person first time , will not be his/her real self ... somewhere they are concealing their real self ... no matter how good or bad they are ....
So , next time you meet someone , just take them on face value ... judge them only after having met them a few times ... and make sure you remain ready to change your judgement into a better or a worse one .... its a slow process ...
its not about first impressions ... or impressions at all ... perhaps you are too trusting and too believing ....
Here's an honest advise : first impressions do not exist , because anyone meeting another person first time , will not be his/her real self ... somewhere they are concealing their real self ... no matter how good or bad they are ....
So , next time you meet someone , just take them on face value ... judge them only after having met them a few times ... and make sure you remain ready to change your judgement into a better or a worse one .... its a slow process ...