Re: First cousin Marriages?
rellies = lazy way of saying relatives :p
Dont shoot me ppl but i kinda see cousin marriage the same as polygamy. Both are allowed, but noone is actually obligated to do it. It's just a choice/preference. and yes both are heavily abused as well.
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End of the day choice is yours. Nothing illegal in marrying first cousins.
The reality is marrying your first cousins increases the probability of genetic disorders significantly. That does not mean your kids will be disabled, die or something but a larger proportion compared to rest of the population will be unwell. Statistics in the UK are very interesting.
So why do people marry couisns?
1) As a woman if you married a first cousin e.g. your uncles son, any inheritance (land) will still stay within the same family. This was a common argument, and still is for such marriages.
2) It is not uncommon for relatives in Pakistan to pressure a hand in marriage for a cousin in the west. Again this is usually down to economic reasons. Emotional black mail a common ingredient in such fiascos.
Think long and hard before making your decision. make sure it is your decision and not taken to please someone else.
Re: First cousin Marriages?
rellies = lazy way of saying relatives :p
Dont shoot me ppl but i kinda see cousin marriage the same as polygamy. Both are allowed, but noone is actually obligated to do it. It's just a choice/preference. and yes both are heavily abused as well.
what if one falls in love with cousin?
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Liek i said..it's a choice and a preference. If you do, then good for you....but it doens't mean everyone else has to marry a cousin nor shd anyone be obligated to marry a cousin. (acutally noone shd be "obligated" to marry anybody!)
Re: First cousin Marriages?
Hamari country mai cousinosai shadi karnai ko mana kartai hai doctors. Lekin Pakistanmai, sirf Pakistanmai nahi bohotsai muslim country mai cousin sai shadi karna aam baat hai.
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wha?! you calling me lazy missy!? 
cricketplaya, i fell in love with my cousin too (now husband) and i had some brief probs with the idea of marrying my cousin. but eventually i got over it lol, i thught Allah has blessed me with such a wonderful person in my life, and as Islam allows cousin marriage, it cant be wrong.
Re: First cousin Marriages?
End of the day choice is yours. Nothing illegal in marrying first cousins.
The reality is marrying your first cousins increases the probability of genetic disorders significantly. That does not mean your kids will be disabled, die or something but a larger proportion compared to rest of the population will be unwell. Statistics in the UK are very interesting.
Acutally, the most recent research has shown that a single cousin marriage barely increases any risk of genetic disorders, no more than if a non-related couple were to have a child and the mother was in her 30's or 40's. The problem in the UK is when people are exclusively marrying their first cousins. So the grandparents were cousins, the parents were double cousins, watta satta everywhere, and the latest childbearing couple is a cousin. That's when the problems occur. An occasional cousin marriage is safe.
While I do think it's better to have genetic diversity (it's a good way to get rid of the family nose in your kids, lol), it's not as gross as some people think it is. Even in the west, a lot of famous people were married to their cousins: Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin, Edgar Allen Poe, HG Wells, a lot of signers of the Declaration of Independence, Queen Victoria, hundreds of royals, etc. Even Rudy Guiliani was married to a second cousin of his.
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:biggthumb Thats such a well balanced view Raatk. And you're so right. I mean, you have one extreme like the Ashkinazis who have a small population to begin with and they have been interbreeding for centuries resulting in almost total infertility. Then you have the families with the occasional cousin marriage where almost no problems occur.
at the end of the day, its a personal choice and as long as its not being forced upon the couple to marry each other, I see nothing wrong with it.