…instead of dummies to practise on. Boy was I surprised tonight. I went to the first of many mondays I’m supposed to be there. I figured when it would come to learn how to help victims, we would actually practise on a dummy.
Well, wrong. We practice with the person sitting next to us or the teachers find us someone of our own height/posture. I felt awful, I was sitting next to a male cause every other chair was taken and so I had to form a practise pair with him, all the time my mind kept shouting non-mehram alert!
I don’t know what to do about it. I could ask the teacher to always let me practise with another female or a dummy. He did let me practice one of the moves with another female. But it was so ackward and so strange. On tv they always show people practising with dummies.
Now what would be the best way to tell the teacher I don’t want to practise with a male without insulting the male sitting next to me or insulting anybody else in the class? I’ve been thinking of some ways to explain in a polite way, but I’m not really sure.
I could say something like ‘sir, it’s a bit uncomfortable, I’m not supposed to touch a non-mehram, of course if there would actually be a victim, I would help him as well as I can using everything you teach me here, but for practise, I just prefer a dummy please, if you don’t mind’.
What do you think? ( only serious replies please, if there are no serious replies, then I’d prefer an empty thread, thank you)
I sincerely doubt that any healthcare teacher (in the west anyway) would allow you to practice only on females. It would be neglectful of your education. You need to learn how to handle both sexes and be comfortable treating both. If you're uncomfortable just in the classroom setting, how could you possibly handle real life? It would be more likely that your teacher would encourage you to work solely with male students so that you overcome your discomfort. I also dont think that helping victims and learning how to help victims is sinful in any way.
Well, it’s different in real situations. Also in class we had to lift each other. Nobody really could do it. But the teacher said that in emergency cases you have adrenaline rushing through your body and then you can actually lift people you can’t in the class room.
I don’t know. If the teacher says no, I’m still going to the classes, it’s not like I have a lot of choise, I need that first aid diploma to get my pharm. ass. diploma, without the first aid diploma, they won’t give me the pharm. ass. one.
But I thought, maybe if I could talk to them they would perhaps understand?
And when I think about the ahadith about punishment for unrelated men and women touching each other, even shaking hands, I shiver!
When I had "friends", one of my best friends was a male. To me he was some sort of brother figure. I have no problem talking to males. I think that is allowed.
But not touching. Nevertheless, nowadays I do shake hands with non-mehrams. It's a long story to explain them why you don't want to shake hands, there isn't always time to explain why you ignore the hand, years ago when I decided not to shake hands with males, people got the weirdest ideas about me (please don't ask me what ideas...), so at that time I started to shake hands again with them. I am sure that is actually wrong.
I should actually quit doing that now that I think of it. Who cares anymore what they think?
ONly thing I am afraid to do is, insult other people and thus giving Islam a bad name.
I guess you really can't live as much by Islamic rules as you would want to for yourself. Plus, when you keep talking about Islam, people get tired or they say you're a show off or something. You can talk about music or movies or anything, people won't mind. You talk about Islam, they either are offended or bored or tired of hearing about it etc.
I'm still thinking of a neutral way to ask my teachers.If someone does have any ideas, I would love to hear them...