Re: Financially supporting family ‘back home’
My mum is a single parent too. BAGARAT (sorry can’t spell today) families would burden a single parent for money to marry off THEIR children. Apoligies for being harsh towards your family OP. But my mums brother is exactly the same-he expecte my mum to support him. What the…why should anyone else support you but yourself? Allah gives rizq, not your passport!!!
You hun are right, why have kids if you cannot afford them? Someone should tell your aunts to throw her daughters in a well of water and get it over and done with because once they are married the cycle of begging will continue. They will start calling for money too.
A son has duties towards his parents, and noone should ever stand in the way UNLESS it’s taking the biscuit e.g. parents want money to deck out their home in marble whilst their son is working 15 hours a day to pay his mortgage. Marble ain’t a requirement for living, however having a safe home, food and bills being paid is.
I may sound harsh, but it gets on my goddamn nerves when people back home feel it’s their God given right to be supported by those who have moved away to foreign climates.
My dada (grandad) moved to the UK in 1957-since his move he was been supporting his useless nasty brother in Pak. His useless brother spent his jawani driving a nice car, living it up and spending money sent by my foolish grandad. How did my grandad spend his youth? Working 6 days a week in a factory doing an average of 16-18 hours a day.
As for supporting those with a handicap or other medical issue. I’d send them zikat.
Maybe I’m being harsh if so I don’t care the fact is Allah gave us all hands and brains and we are all given opportunities. How we use them is up to us. If we are lazy enough to sit around and wait for handouts it’s time someone took that advantage off us.
All this makes me wonder why people living in Pak think that money grows on tree for people living outside Pak? People living abroad have as many problems, they have to work twice as hard to earn their living and face the hardship (different from those of people living in Pak)… but still…