i sometimes feel its me. all me. maybe i never accepted thatthis was my home for a while maybe i dont like ny mil and even shes “nice” to me i feel like its all an act. even now shes sick has flu is in bed vomiting etc i feel its all a drama just to get my husbands sympathy.
few days back she was in bed sick, theres some groceries i put away and some fish. i put the fish in the freezer all without seperaying the slices.
next day she told me off aboit that, and told me to do it the correct way, ok fine. then when my husband comes into the room she also told him!! wat was the need to tell him?? once uve told me why tell him- to make me look bad.
husband doesnt see it this way. he was more concerned with why i wasnt offering his mothr boiled water? did i ask wether she was hungry etcrtc.
husband doesbt see what shes doing. indirectly brainwashn him. she says these things to him im sure. to make me look stupid. which i then feel.
nadz, since your mil is sick, are you taking care of her especially infront of your hubby? any of that brainwashing wont make a difference if he sees you concerned about his family.
and remember some of the things your mil is teaching you will help you in long run like separating fish slices before freezing.
Whether your MIL is truly ill or feigning it......help her out as opposed to only sympathizing. She may not give a damn, but I think your husband would appreciate the effort. His mind, fortunately, isn't closed to you. Women in such situations have it much harder than you.
See, if your MIL is using something as trivial as fish to make you look bad before your husband, why don't you use something much bigger like her illness to make yourself look better? You could play it that way.
You focus all your mental energy on what MIL does, what she failed to do, what she's faking, etc........that it doesn't seem like you spend much time thinking about how to help yourself.
She might just be old and going senile. Idk. My mil tends to repeat things. Especially if me or my bhabhi do anything wrong at all. Also, her daughters praises. It is like a recording playing over and over and over. So I can understand. Just try to ignore. I just ignore and hubby, fil, and everyone else she tells... does my praises for ly patience. Also, hubby appologizes on her behalf and standsp for me if it is too much.
Anyways, I think she might be forgetful, or maybe she is just grumpy due to being sick. Just be patient. And if she is throwing up and all... Then u should take care of her. Or atleast ask how she is doing.
