well sweetpie, hope you have the best in the future and are always as clear sighted, focused and sorted out as you were under this situation.
^But that’s just it. I was not clear sighted, focused or sorted out in this situation at all. I simply went with this crazy feeling of being with someone who (I thought at the time) wanted me also but boy was I so wrong. Each time I would ask him how he felt about me, his answer was that it is private and he won’t disclose his feelings on that which made me think, correctly or incorrectly, that I meant nothing to him which is why he wasn’t saying anything even to me. I don’t have all that much experience with guys to play their games but after the fact of this situation and looking back on other odd things he would say or do, etc., I now look back and have definitely learned from it quite a lot in terms of how to spot a red flag.
In any event, life is for the living. These things happen, you live and you learn, and life goes on. Whoever said that, said it well. 
oh, i didn’t know you actually tried to fall in love just for the hell of being in love, in which case you sure were out of focus. But the good part is, you learned alot and when it was time to wrap up, you actaully were clear sighted, focused and knew what you wanted or had to do, didnt you?
p.s. this guy, what exactly was his problem? i mean being a guy i know one doesnt tell a girl his feelings for her are ‘private’…i wonder what that means…? Anyway! forget it! hope you have the best in future, which you sure will! best luck!
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Haris, I didn’t fall in love at all. It was infactuation at best in this particular case. There was no question of me falling in love with someone who wanted a mostly internet relationship. That would be silly. I have only ever been in love once in my life and that was almost 10 years ago back in my college days. As far as anything else concerning this situation most recently, half the things this guy would say were very cryptic and questionable. In any event, I am quite clear-headed about all this and it is my luck that I am out of the loop with him. Thanks for your well wishes.
This brings me to another issue which women are constantly discussing: it is hard to find decent men these days. How much do you agree or disagree with this statement?
Yeah Sweetpie, women keep whining about not being able to find the right guy, not being able to find mr perfect and so on, but you see, the truth is, there's thousands of good guys outthere who go undiscovered. It just seems to be a matter of priorities, nothing is perfect and women must make sure what their priorities are. that goes for men too. I mean everyone has a diff definition of the 'right person'. For a millionaire's daughter that definition would include more millions in her partners bank acc than her fathers. For any other woman the right person should be a normal decent educated well behaved respecting healthy preferrably very handsome person who actually is a good person. but the problems start where people dont know what their priorities should be and want the wrong things and more than they should ask for and unfortunately the last trait i mentioned; 'good person' is what ppl care for the least or worry about only very late. all this goes for men too, man are often too demanding of their poosible partners too.
^I agree with you 100%. There are a number of good guys out there and I have recently even met a few. What usually tends to happen is that when you find someone who is “nice” they tend to lack other requirements on your list of priorities but again, that is just a matter of chance. I know each situation is different and it is just a matter of time before hitting bullseye. All in all, each person has a unique definition of what constitutes the “right” person for him/her, though again, instead of getting so super picky that no one on earth can possibly meet their requirements, people should look for basics such as more or less “a normal decent educated well behaved respecting healthy preferrably very handsome person who actually is a good person” as you put it.
yeah thats it i guess, the secret to being happy while actually having the feet on the ground. hope we all find the right person at the right time, at least those who deserve a right person in their lives.
:)
^Ameen
Best of luck in the future.
Just out of curiousity... and feel free not to answer... is he the same guy whom you once mentioned in an earlier post as the one who bought you flowers at your work place?
Also, when you say your minimum basic requirements are "a normal decent educated well behaved respecting healthy preferrably very handsome person who actually is a good person", what else is left? Other than he being a millionaire, ofcourse.
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Best of luck in the future.
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Thank you.
I am probobly out on a limb..
Didn't read all the posts..
But what got me wanting to say something is that by your post I got the felling thatthis former/or still loved one of yours lacked the ability to be truly intimate.
Unwilling to share intimacy of thoughts and feelings.
And IMHO intamacy of thoughts and feelings is key to a relationship.
Either you do, or you don't. And if you don't...(or can't) share intimacy of ideas, values, thoughts, feelings...
is what makes relationships fail.
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And IMHO intamacy of thoughts and feelings is key to a relationship. Either you do, or you don't. And if you don't...(or can't) share intimacy of ideas, values, thoughts, feelings...is what makes relationships fail.
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Absolutely. I totally agree with that.
yes Faisal, the being a millionaire part and the social status, connections, fame etc actually conform a large part of many people's rquirements.