Re: final chapter of the book...this is seriously by last post about this guy!!
Just move on, Catty. If he was crazy about you.....he wouldn't suggest you date other women. And has he called to check up on how you're doing since you were in the hospital?
Look how upset you are...it seems you're more stressed out with this guy than you are happy with him. He's not the only guy in the world, is he?
Why do people lie? I'm not saying it's right......but why is it so hard to understand? People often lie to avoid unpleasant situations. You go for a job interview and the employer has already made up his mind that he neither likes you nor wants to hire you. Does he tell you that he doesn't like you and that he doesn't want to hire you? NOPE......he'll go through with the interview......acting like he's interested....and then either hint his lack of interest with some polite reasoning...or not call you back so that you get the idea.
It happens all the time. Your friend/relative/coworker/stranger is wearing something outrageous.......if they ask you how they look....do you always tell people the truth? NO. Sometimes people will tell a pleasing lie....just to avoid the awkwardness and drama.
Everyone here has suggested that you move on. But each time we do that........you come up with a "But why did he do this then?" OR...."But why did he say that then?" It's almost like you're trying to find some excuse or reason that might indicate that he loves you and that you haven't been wasting your precious time on this guy. It's natural....it's like a defense mechanism...a way to protect yourself from facing what may be the unpleasant truth.
Ask yourself if this is truly worth it. Ask yourself if you're overall more miserable than happy with him. Ask yourself if you want to spend your life with a wishy washy guy. Respect yourself enough...to raise the standards...to want someone who will respect you in return and will be SURE about wanting to marry you.