Fighting

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Re: Fighting

@Sara516

not amongst friends or couples…but say, fighting for what you believe in, standing up for yourself or standing up for someone else…

how do you know when is the right time to do so? There are some people who let alot of things go and there are those who fight everything…there has to be a balance…so how do you find that? Often times I regret when I did speak up about something which led to a confrontation and other times I regret NOT saying something when I had the chance…the moment is passed…

so how do u find that right balance…

Good topic!

I have been the one who lets a lot go. The way I have figured this out is by noticing my emotional reaction to what is being said. Obviously, if it is about something that I have a strong opinion about, I speak up. If I don’t have a very strong opinion, I usually listen, because that means there is something I can learn there - to form an opinion.

I also try to pay attention to what is stopping me from speaking up, when those difficult situations arise. Often times, it is stuff like not wanting any sort of a conflict, or the other person seems less than nice (and so intimidating) to speak up to. Those are the best times to push yourself to do it.