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thankyou but why you call my post “crap”?! 
haan?
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wow Namkeen it's like you're reciting my life here. For me, his sulking/moodiness was so hard to handle before and even now sometimes. Emotionally I used to get so down and depressed because there was nothing I could do in order to change the situation.
Now like you, i've learned to distract myself and to do other things/activities with friends/family just so I can get my mind off of it so I don't make myself miserable. Compromising and adjusting are key I think.
yeah lol i think having a husband who sulks/throws tantrums is good practice for when u have a toddler and have to deal with the terrible twos and threes :P
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mine pisses me of every now and again if i say something right he thinks im wrong and gets a fit and he fights with me all day until i say im wrong when im not
i say it jus to get him off my head
i swear with my husband if we fight my heads spins like a rollercoaster and never stops
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she normally calms down after beating me to a pulp and after i have apologized for crying and not being able to take it like a man 
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In the end, no matter how we fight or how much we fight our hearts know that we love, respect, and value each other. Fights are just the fuels we need to energize our lives and relationship.
In the end we don't know what is in the other's heart. In the end we just feel that our other half is thinking exactly the way we think.
I have a different take on what you are claiming. Men (at least majority of those I know) apparently remain calm during fights but that does not mean that they are calm inside, they are just more tolerant.
Many women claim that fights energize their relationships. I have yet to see a man who claims the same. Continued fighting with your spouse over petty matters will slowly take him away from you, not necessarily physically, but definitely emotionally.
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wow that sounds exactly like us..
But so what – he had it comming 
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How can a person be your significant other if you can find something to fight about ?
Don't you love anything and everything about her/him when this person is your significant other ?
Please explain to me.
I have been married for 16 years we never ever argued about anything. Whatever she cooks I eat without ever complaining. She never pressed me for buying anything if I told her that we cannot afford it. I buy more stuff for her than I do for myself. Men are not into shoes and clothes anyway. She is happy I am happy. We never even fought over how to raise the kids. She would be mad at kids for disrespecting daddy and I would be mad at kids for being disrespectful to their mother.
You guys and gals be very respectful to your significant other who is cool enough to listen to your BS and still keep their cool.
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^^ wow what a perfect family you have --- lekin in that prfection your kids disrespect thier parents? Astagfirallah -- I would never disrespect my parents. Allah maaf karai..
Moral of the story: Dont be so quick to point fingers... every family/couple has thier issues.
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when you read this comment in the context its being said, i’d have to say i agree.
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Kinda same thing once a gora old couple told me. They said that once u’ll marry a nice lady, don’t forget to have some small fights with her … and i was like WHAT … why u said that … but later the lady told me that … fighting means u’r actually communicating. So its good to have them some time. 
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In the end we don't know what is in the other's heart. In the end we just feel that our other half is thinking exactly the way we think.
in the end they say that communication is the key to peek what is hiding/going on in the heart of the other person... so communicate my friend communicate and you will know.
I have a different take on what you are claiming. Men (at least majority of those I know) apparently remain calm during fights but that does not mean that they are calm inside, they are just more tolerant.
okay are they really remaining calm/tolerant or are we using fancy words for tuning out, not budging or turning a deaf ear to what the wife/gf/significant other is saying (or nagging as many men call it)???? well, mine doesn't do any of these and he is quite vocal during the fights. Different experience we have i think????
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Many women claim that fights energize their relationships. I have yet to see a man who claims the same. Continued fighting with your spouse over petty matters will slowly take him away from you, not necessarily physically, but definitely emotionally.
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it could be because of different brain structure or nature of men and women... men are more introvert, egoistic, always trying to play innocent????? women on the other hand usually express whatever is in their heart, most of them don't mind talking about their personal lives and issues, don't mind having guilt trip every now and then.
But you are right, infact, it is not the fight that energizes the relationship... it is the makeup part after the fight that make us realize that we really do matter to each other.:)
And about the continuous fights, god forbid.... our fight are not continuous... but fighting over the petty matters as you call it... i don't mind fighting with him on petty matters like "how come you didn't push the dining chair in after you were done with dinner" as compare to big and significant matters like "aaj tumhari amma nai mujhay yey bura kaha" or "tumhari behan gold kay jyhumkay pehan kar meray samany show mar rahi thi, bas ab tum bi mujhay dilao" kind of stuff. I usually push the buttons that i know are no harm in pushing.
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^^Yea for logical reasonable women!!! :)
hope you see that I was pulling aahmed's leg because he was saying how unreasonable women are.
I was only talking in terms of after big huge fights that it can't always be lovey dovey time since emotionally you need to regroup for some time. After small arguments it's always makeup and....well you know :D
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Many women claim that fights energize their relationships. I have yet to see a man who claims the same. Continued fighting with your spouse over petty matters will slowly take him away from you, not necessarily physically, but definitely emotionally.
I hope this is not true that women feel that fights energize their relationships. I really don't think that's the case at all. When both are listening to what the other is saying, it prevents the continued arguments on the same topic over and over again.
Big fights can be emotionally draining for both and continued fights over the same topics will slowly take away.......from BOTH not just him. Many times situations can't be changed so the continued arguments are inevitable so some sort of compromise by both needs to be reached or else something unfortunate might result.
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hope you see that I was pulling aahmed's leg because he was saying how unreasonable women are.
I was only talking in terms of after big huge fights that it can't always be lovey dovey time since emotionally you need to regroup for some time. After small arguments it's always makeup and....well you know :D
Yeah I did Indopak...we on the same page :)
As for the make up... double grin
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Haw hai, aaj kal ki ladkiyaN with their "making up"...