ok no offence meant Mirch , if only you guys could be more sensitive to how insecure the poor girl could be feeling, just by the lack of your nerve to initiate and be romantic, then things wouldnt go downhill in the first place. :D
i have exactly the same issue with my fiance. he's usually busy at work. but even when he gets time, being his total cautious self, he avoids long conversations. although i know there's no other woman and he's quite happy. but STILL i need some sort of assurance that he does care :p
and when i question him he gets genuinely surprised and cant even understand why am i so upset :P arrrghh..men... :P:P
That is what I am trying to say. He is shy and lacks the nerve to be romantic and take initiative . That should be your assurance that he is yours and he cannot ever have guts to initiate romance with someone else. :p