Im engaged, geting maried nxt yr InshAllah.
problem is im being presuirised to break contact with hym as itl effect excitement and later marriage aparently. But i kant live without not speaking to hym, by the way its a distance realtraionshyp. Wat should i do?
Re: Fiancee.
well it's that "sabr ka phal" story, patience my friend patience! he may be dear to you but in reality he's just another man. take it easy, 1 year goes by fast!
Re: Fiancee.
I think you are 100% allowed to talk to him .. asking you to break any contact is very unfair
Re: Fiancee.
I second TLK…for once. 
From an Islamic perspective, verbal communication with your spouse to be is fully allowed and encouraged, so long as the subjects are “ma’roof”, i.e not lewd or inappropriate.
From a non Islamic perspective, i understand that people try to break contact before the marriage to enhance the excitement and anticipation or whatever… and in fact i tried to do it; up until then, i had seen/talked to my hubby for years before marriage almost everyday… so the “not talking policy” naturally lasted all of 6 hours… you can say i have no sabar, but when you’re that involved in each others lives and seek solace in each other, it’s pretty difficult to cut that person out… especially at a time of serious stress (the wedding) where you’re both probably going through the same emotions…
Do what feels right for you. Try the no talking policy and see how it works out 
like you had a choice … 
Im engaged, geting maried nxt yr InshAllah. problem is im being presuirised to break contact with hym as itl effect excitement and later marriage aparently. But i kant live without not speaking to hym, by the way its a distance realtraionshyp. Wat should i do?
i don't believe this pov. unless u guys r having physical intimacies or talking dirty just by mere talking excitement goes no where. actually it makes easier to know n understand each other n pump some excitement into ur relation esp if its an arranged rishta.
Re: Fiancee.
Thats unfair and sad...I wouldnt do it.
Re: Fiancee.
yeah dont give into it - stop talking to him maybe a day before the wedding makes sense because well u wont have time - but this is just complete crap .. what does NOT talking to a person have to do with excitement and all? i actually find it kills the excitement and the “ubharta hua naya naya pyaar 
” - i txt msgd my husband all thru the nikkah, mehndi and the day of the baraat (until well we were together) and it was pretty amazing - we had soo much fun and i find had i given in to what my parents said about not talking to him .. i would have had a harder time getting to know him so this is your time to get to know him so that u dnt have to AFTER the wedding
Re: Fiancee.
why dont you limit your conversations to twice a week or so?
Re: Fiancee.
I opened a topic very similiar to this a few years ago when i first got engaged. I didnt break contact as suggested and kept talking to him. When the engagement was broken a year later (a week before the scheduled wedding date, no less), i felt horrible for a long time realising that i talked to someone that wasnt my future husband.
So my advice is to talk to him but not a lot and certainly not too intimately.
Re: Fiancee.
^yeah that was what i was going to write too - just dont let it get to a level where you get hurt if something goes wrong - engagement breakings are hard enuff and when you get to a point where youve shared personal stuff and have been talkin intimately it gets even harder - so prolly thats what ur parents mean when they ask u to stop talking or limit it - they just want you to be a little more practical about it so that you dont get caught up.. :)