I am new here. I am quite worried these days and didnt know with whom i should share it. Although my family knows about the issue and they are worried as well. I got engaged to guy from a totally unknown family through a rishta aunty. I got engaged (actually baat pakki) two months back and uptil now my fiance is not talking to me. Like usually it happens everywhere that the guy approaches girl as hes interested in talking to her but the case is different here. Although my brothers text him or call him and my brothers find him ok even they have met him. And the family is nice aswell but this thing bothers me alot. He just called on eid day on my mothers number to wish eid and only on that day just because my mother handed me the phone i talked to him and we exchanged numbers. He is on whatsapp doesnt message me at all. What could be the reason? should i take the first move? please help me people!
Nothing to worry about, and I say again, Nothing to worry about, seriously!
This is not unusual, We happen to know many people, who were in your situation, and they kept things at distance, because, the guy thought, that his tendency to go in fights was very high, and that could have cause troubled in rishta, as you both come from totally, unknown families.
While, once you get married, ability for people to flow with things and compromises just makes things smooth.
Since "He" called on eid, it's good enough sign, nothing is wrong.
Now, if you want him to open up, your family can be of some assistance, by having them over and leaving you guys a little space somewhere. It really help me, in my case.
All that said, There is nothing we as forum contributors can say about his nature to express love and what kind of person he is. Men are not all same. Definition of time is different for each one, Some are 24/7 Cuddlers while some are just content to have one around.
Contact him first on WA, get the ball rolling. Say that you wanted to get to know him and as you hadn't ever heard from him, you weren't sure how he felt about that. Let's see what he says. But get to know him. That way, if there are any incompatqbility issues, you have time to end it. And if things go well, then great.
Thank you all :) yes i think i should and i will text him lets see how will he respond. Without talking to him i cant come to a conclusion. May be this way things will get better. Assuming things arent going to solve the situation. I will try contacting him via whatsapp but if i dont get any response thn i'll discuss with him why he is not interacting. Alot of problem solves when u communicate.
And ofcourse I dont want him to talk to me 24/7. i just want him to talk atleast once a week so that i get to know him.
Maybe it's not considered a nice thing in his family? Some families just don't like the concept of fiancés getting too close before marriage and he's just following what his family does. He needs to know its the norm in your family and you aren't going to judge him for any communication he starts.
The fact that he's communicating with your family is a very good sign so I don't think you have anything to worry. Why don't you add him on facebook?
Maybe it's not considered a nice thing in his family? Some families just don't like the concept of fiancés getting too close before marriage and he's just following what his family does. He needs to know its the norm in your family and you aren't going to judge him for any communication he starts.
The fact that he's communicating with your family is a very good sign so I don't think you have anything to worry. Why don't you add him on facebook?
I dont know what is the reason behind it. I tried contacting him but his replies seems like he is not much interested in talking. Anyways, he doesnt have a facebook account.
