If there was someone special in your life that you care for deeply (perhaps not in love with) and have been through so much together…and you find out that he has only a few years to live… would you marry him knowing that you are the only one that can make his last few years the happiest moments of his life? knowing that you can ease his pain and discomfort caused by his illness?
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i wouldnt say pity…but perhaps that person wants to be there for his dying days.
would u consider it a form of sadaqa? :halo:
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u can just b tehre 4 him...like u hv always been
u dont hv to marry him if u dont want to
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this person wants to do it the proper islamic way....you cant really care for the person physically w/o being married.
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First of all, it sounds like someone in this person would marry to make the dyign person happy, rather than marry to make herself happy.
Secondly, there is the fact that once the guy dies, the girl would be left a widow, and unfortunately there is a bit of a stigma attached to widows which, especially when they are young, can make it harder to find a husband to remarry later
Thirdly, there is a chance that even if protection is used, she could be left with child, which again can unfortunately make it harder to find a husband to remarry later.
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Angel you mean have legal sex with the dying man???
Other then that i cant see the reason for them marrying
I mean why cant a person bet here for another one just like before
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do YOU want to marry him??
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If I don't love him then No I will not marry him considering the fact that how life would become difficult without one's husband (specially if u end up having a kid)..So I will try to make him happy while he is alive by being a good fren but cannot jeapordize my life over this.
But if I love that dude..then its totally a different situation about which I can't really say anything as of this moment.
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why would he want to ruin the life of this girl...he doesnt need to be this selfish
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well he isnt the one asking her to marry him.
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But if I love that dude..then its totally a different situation about which I can't really say anything as of this moment.
good point! besides after marriage one may become attached to the other and it would become even harder to let them go. :(
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Other then that i cant see the reason for them marrying I mean why cant a person bet here for another one just like before
lol..it has nothing to do with sex....i dont think.
because this person is somewhat conservative and wants to take care of them but they cant do it the halal way if they dont get married. She cant physically be there...meaning helping him cope with the pain and comforting him, helping him out of bed in the morning...getting him dressed etc etc.
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Looks to me a pretty nurse job...
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i know ....but a nurse wouldnt be as sincere.
it's gotta be a touch situation to be in....not know what to do. Should you devote a couple years of your life in taking care of someone and giving them the happiest moments of their life....or should u just help them out with ur kind words...but from a distance.
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That’s an assumption, and you would end up risking your own happiness on that assumption.
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it is difficult to say yes or no outright
you have to consider ALL the circumstances,
and could the couple be happy together for te short time they have together.
yes there is the fact she will be left as a widow when she dies,
but Allah has his ways of making life easier, and it could be that the illness recedes and they are togther for much longer than the few years you are saying :)
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in a heartbeat