Re: Female Sexuality - North African Style
I dont think some of you understand the point yet again. Women are sexual, and they have sexual needs. Although the religion accepts this, and even the Prophet accepted this, and the Prophet's companions accepted this ... eventually over time, the idea crept back in (which existed well before Islam), that women should not be respected sexually.
What this woman is writing about, from the excerpt that Madhanee has put up (and Madhanee, correct me if I'm wrong, since you read it, not I), that :
She describes the heroine's sexual endeavors.
Not that she approves of them, necessarily - which is where I think you people are misunderstanding.
And with that she talks about how the heroine, despite her sexual endeavors, didn't get the satisfying relationship she wanted. The man she slept with was giving her respect in bed, perhaps, but not outside of bed.
So, I don't see why anyone here thinks that the book is condoning pre-marital or extra-marital sex. In fact, the author is saying that in the long term, this kind of sex is not satisfying.
In the process, she is writing about this woman's sexuality - i.e. her desire for sex.
She sounds to me like she's saying "Treating women like toys to throw aside after you're done using them is not Islamic, and we wont be able to solve this problem, until we accept the fact that women have a sexual side to them that should be respected, not used".
I actually said all of this in one statement, but of course, no one understood it. If you want to sleep with a woman, fine and dandy, but marry her. Otherwise, you're hurting her.
And the author is talking about the satisfaction of sex, but the hurt from the relationship.
But somehow you people think that the author is encouraging pre-marital sex. Jeez. No wonder she wrote this novel.