I was okay until yesterday. again, MILs little annoying stupidity, and i cant even give her jawab because she has a tendency to do a big drama in front of her kids and become ill.... not only that, but it seems silly i know, husband first day back at work after eid, and i mustve not seen that his shirt wasnt ironed. ok no big deal right. well there was one shirt which had been irnoned by the kaam wali ages ago, which was had some creases, however ws ironed`. i mustve overlooked the shirt. and he didnt have one in the morning. which he made a little fuss about. he didnt say much but seemed pisseddd offf with me and has been moody.
whys it such a big deal. little things make him angry enough to be moody? is this a big deal.?
so many times hes done similar overlooking on my part, and i havent made a big fuss, ive said whatever i wanted to say at the time and forgotten about it. he however seems to carry the mood for days.
why.
makes me already down as im alreayd feeling crap as it is.
and if i do slip up in the stepford wife role, his mum is there to do everything for him and make me feel 100 times worse.
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no offence but a man needs a short in the morning when he is going for work! :)
However, the question I have is why is it your responsibility to look after HIS shirts. Why cant he forward plan himself. " oh I havent got a shirt to wear as they are all in the wash I better tell Nadz to wash it".
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here we go, i knew people here would say why is it my responsibilty, well it just is. im sure in many hosueholds its the women who do all this kinda stuff and men just get their stuff done....im not saying my husband is a typcial man, but in some cases he is.
and to be honest, i would prefer to, if i can look after my kids, my parents, why not my husband. and right now i need to seeing as his mothers waiting for a slip up so she can say ahaaaahhhh heres ur shirt puttar...your mother ironed it and licked it clean!
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here we go, i knew people here would say why is it my responsibilty, well it just is. im sure in many hosueholds its the women who do all this kinda stuff and men just get their stuff done....im not saying my husband is a typcial man, but in some cases he is.
and to be honest, i would prefer to, if i can look after my kids, my parents, why not my husband. and right now i need to seeing as his mothers waiting for a slip up so she can say ahaaaahhhh heres ur shirt puttar...your mother ironed it and licked it clean!
fair enough, you like to do it and its your responsibility.
My point is your hubby does some things doesnt he? Like makes sure he charges HIS phone at night. Makes sure there is petrol in HIS car. Then why not just take a quick look to make sue HE has something to wear!
Or just get better at YOUR job! :)
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Oh pls stone cold...
I guess going by your theory she should earn HER own money, why should he?
She should put food on HER table, why should he feed her?
A woman sitting at hme all day can easily iron a shirt heck plan out it all ... Even more heck...even a working woman that's married can do that.
Nadzz: everyone has their own way of showing diss appointment...being moody is his... Let him deal with it. Such ppl only come around on their won when they feel like it... OR if someone cuddles them and says lots of precious lil nothings in their ears... Upto u what u wanna do.
u have been married long enough to understand each others mizaaj... Try to keep each other happy keeping those things in mind. It's very simple :)
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Oh pls stone cold...
I guess going by your theory she should earn HER own money, why should he?
She should put food on HER table, why should he feed her?
A woman sitting at hme all day can easily iron a shirt heck plan out it all ... Even more heck...even a working woman that's married can do that.
Nadzz: everyone has their own way of showing diss appointment...being moody is his... Let him deal with it. Such ppl only come around on their won when they feel like it... OR if someone cuddles them and says lots of precious lil nothings in their ears... Upto u what u wanna do.
u have been married long enough to understand each others mizaaj... Try to keep each other happy keeping those things in mind. It's very simple :)
my point here, which has again been missed is...
a) it doesnt matter if the shirt wasnt washed, its not the end of the world.
b) who doesnt know when their items need washing...? then simply just tell the wife.
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then again as a pakistani man...i can understand how he relies on you for everything!
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Even though I would not put my personal chores like laundry, ironing, shoe polishing etc etc on my wife who is a mother too
BUT
Nadz you are married long enough to know what ticks him off (and what turns him on) so now you have to work around it. Also everyone has their way of showing disappointment/displeasure. Some show it instantly and move on right away and some drags it for couple of days.
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BUT
Nadz you are married long enough to know what ticks him off (and what turns him on) so now you have to work around it.
^ This! Nadz, by now your husband and MIL have made it VERY clear to you who they are as people and what you should expect from them. They have no intention of changing their behavior towards you. Their behavior in this thread isn't anything new is it?
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^ This! Nadz, by now your husband and MIL have made it VERY clear to you who they are as people and what you should expect from them. They have no intention of changing their behavior towards you. Their behavior in this thread isn't anything new is it?
= don't post unless their character changes?