And for those women who are 27-28 years old and happy and confident with themselves while waiting to find a good decent guy...........they wouldn't feel too good to read a thread in which they are being pitied and felt sorry for. As SU said, count your blessings Choti Jaan. And since u have a caring heart, pray for urself and others.
Life is so unpredictable. An early marriage can God forbid not work out. Does that mean the now single woman should become depressed and stop living? No. A woman is more than just the label of "married" or "unmarried." There is much more substance to her than her relationship status. It's sad to limit her to this.
Redvelvet,
There are many thing that I read on gupshup that doesn't suit my fancy either- and reminds me of me. It doen't do much for my self esteem- but you know what- I think it's wonderful to see the point of view from the other side-and make myself have thicker skin.For example, I know people write many comments on how they hate bony girl figures that look like prepubescent boy - I have the boniest figure (like an anorexics). If I told someone that I was hurt by this they would say, "it's the internet for God's sake, you aren't going to hear only the flattering parts of your life" And that's the great thing about the internet--you can get into the minds of many people....cuz they are writng what they are thinking.
Also, maybe the poster wants to know the feelings and motivations of a girl's getting married late- why is is that (after all many say they CHOOSE to get married late-** i think you said that too-- well then why are you hurt, if you chose your lifestyle? )** and how should a younger person react when talking to older unmarried women. Or just wondering how to get rid of that "I feel bad getting married" because my cousin isn't married...
The post that I wrote is geniune concern and close to home, and bothers me everyDAY!! Everyday I hope for a phone call from my aunt that would say 'oh Maryum's engaged!" !!!!Everday! It does hurt me...and I would love to know the thoughts about older unmarried girls so that I can understand them better, and maybe not feel sorry for them, but happy in every action they take....
Redvelvet, from your posts I KNOW you are a much more confident person then to be hurt by athought by a young girl that was posted online!
Love, Choti Jaan