I’m getting Nikkahed Inshallah in 5 days. It’s a love marriage, I’ve known the guy for almost 7 years now. Yet, as the time is approaching, I feel so panicky, as if somethings not right. I love him, and obviously want to be with him, but I don’t understand why I feel so nervous/strange all of a sudden. I never expected to. My pulse is constantly racing, and I can feel myself shaking throughout the day.
Is it just nerves regarding the whole process of getting nikkahed? Has anyone else ever felt this way? I don’t know what’s going on =/.
its normal - i think a lot of girls go through this - weddings send emotions crazy and unless you have a real reason for feeling as such - ignore it if you cannot pinpoint a solid reason
well has something happened? did you have an argument with him? something his/your family said?
does he repluse you?
if you answer yes to any of the above then you have issues otherwise its just stress - even if you are confused if he is the 'one' its just the stress i am sure - sit down and think about all the good things about your spouse then go through your concerns (everyone has concerns) and as long as these concerns are minor dont worry about it!!! take a hot bath/get a facial or even try a foot massage to relax!
supersummer- haha no, Alhumdulillah none of those things have occured. I guess it suddenly hit me that this all was finally happening a couple nights ago when we started decorating the house. Yeah, I’ll definitely start making room for relaxation, I need it at this point.
Mirch- lol that website is awesome.
Pre-Party Panic
Two weeks before the big bash, you find that you’re panicked – you’re sweating, shaking, losing sleep, and not eating. While this is not healthy, it is normal. You’re about to make a commitment for the rest of your life and you’re staring that notion right in the eye. Try your best to relax and be healthy. Your nerves will eventually return to a normal state.
A little better actually, the nausea is gone lol. I also spoke to the fiancee, and he said he's been feeling the same way, so it's good to know we're in the same boat :)
haha that is kinda sweet. I felt very numb on the nikah. Everyone TOLD me to expect all you said, but i think i was the most level headed person around. everyone else was running around like headless chickens and I was putting them together!
entering the zen zone isnt hard really. one thing that helped me was keeping in touch with my husband in between despite everyones attempts to keep us busy elsewhere. my girlfriends managed to sneak him in with me after the nikah nama was signed thanks to my brothers' help. so we spent an hour together in my room destressing basically while the house was in havoc in preparation for the evening dinner reception of sorts. its important to keep grounded like that i think that really helps. i remember when we sat down together in my room i was so stressed abt something a nund had said the day before that in discussing it and in removing my jhoomar at the same time i got it horribly tangled in my hair and then just gave up. he had to step in and calm me down!
entering the zen zone isnt hard really. one thing that helped me was keeping in touch with my husband in between despite everyones attempts to keep us busy elsewhere. my girlfriends managed to sneak him in with me after the nikah nama was signed thanks to my brothers' help. so we spent an hour together in my room destressing basically while the house was in havoc in preparation for the evening dinner reception of sorts. its important to keep grounded like that i think that really helps. i remember when we sat down together in my room i was so stressed abt something a nund had said the day before that in discussing it and in removing my jhoomar at the same time i got it horribly tangled in my hair and then just gave up. he had to step in and calm me down!
haha aw poor thing, that's adorable though! yeah, he's coming tomorrow so hopefully that'll calm me down a bit. It's just so hard to keep up with all the preps, the pressure of the two families coming together, and knowing that this is such a big step.
Sohni- Lol yeah it's definitely cold feet, I just never thought that women went through it. The media always shows men having nervous break downs lol.
hehe i had moments of zen and then moments of freaking out cos i wasnt freaking out and hence thought i wasnt acting normal and needed to be institutionalized, or people needed to hold off the wedding till i was freaking out enough
Even though I was a big mess through out the wedding, I had thought I kept it pretty together on my nikah. Its only much later that one of my best friends told me that was the one day she saw me really nervous. Its funny but I have no recollection of nervousness whatsoever!
Theres so much going on that you really dont know what feelings to put where …and it goes by so quickly that its over before you know it and then its all a blur.
I havent slept for 2 days... I m trying to slrep but cant. The lists of things that need to be done keep running through my head... I keep counting the days left and panicking. I have 24 days till nikkah and only 19 days till mayoon n dholkis.. Arghhhh. Still have to book a mua, finish shopping, buy shoes for baraat day, buy his ring, get furniture, bedding, bathroom accesories, his tie for waalima day, move my things there, on top of that, my car needs a new tire and inspection done...and there is much much more. Oooo and planthe honeymoon, book a hotel, rent a car, need to find a limo rental, mehndi artist, nail salon... Omgggg I m tooo stressed... I forget to eat and plan in my sleep. :(
i can so relate to this. this is exactly what i felt before my nikah. infact when i was getting my make-up done at the MUA's place, i kept jumping up and down and taking deep breaths to calm me down. I was a bundle of nerves.
It's totally normal! :)
I had butterflies in my stomach but I was also so happy Alhamdulilah. Was definitely emotion overload!
When my makeup artist came, she was saying that I was the complete opposite of most brides because I was calm and collected ... little did she know that I had spent the entire morning crying and only felt better moments before she came because I showered! :P
Same thing before the Nikkah - I seemed totally fine to most of my family/friends I think but then when I was alone, I was a nervous like mad
You'll feel totally normal and at ease once the Nikkah happens :)
