of his sister........................................
we live in the uk, his fam is back home....she is 2 yrs younger than hubby, she also has a younger bro whose a yr younger thanher, she doesnt get along with her younger bro as much as her older, my hubby....and she constantly whines that she misses him, and i get annoyed and for some reason bit jealous, and everytime she texts or even HIS MUM texts i get all possessive and run and give him a hug and make sure he stays away from the phone...i get annoyed when he suggests once a week to ring them...arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
if he buys his family gifts, it pisses me off, if he suggests he may contribute toward paying for some of their stuff, like fees for exams ( if they cannot afford) it gets on ym nerves..
ahem....
You best snap yourself out of this attitude soon, because this is exactly the type of mentality that has the potential to create problems with in-laws. In fact, in the few desi dramas where the DIL is portrayed as the antagonist......it's because of such mentality.
You wouldn't like it if your husband begrudged you spending time with your family (whether on the phone or in person)......and you wouldn't like it if he disapproved of you spending some money on your family. Yes,.........to a certain extent.......it's flattering to know that one's spouse loves them very much and wants him/her all to themselves. But after a certain point, it's not flattering.........it makes a person look needy......and that is usually a turn-off for both genders.
Also, why do you get so possessive when he's interacting with his family? That's what you need to analyze. Are you afraid that you're not important enough to him? Your feelings might be stemming from some insecurity or fear.
Try to understand that his family was in life for a much longer time before he started getting to know you on a deeper level. And his relationship with them is DIFFERENT from his relationship with you. The relationship he has with his parents and siblings CANNOT even be compared to his relationship with you. The interactions, expectations, and rights are all different. It's like comparing apples to oranges and it can't be done. This is the root cause of why MILS and DILS start hating on each other. One thinks the other is more loved. They fail to comprehend that the "love" one has toward their parents/siblings is different from what one feels for their spouse.
As far as spending money on his family is concerned...........it shouldn't be a problem as long as he's not neglecting his financial responsibilities toward the marriage. And i think it is said Allah wants us to spend money on our loved ones. Spend on others, and Allah will spend on you.
You're blessed, Nadz. When you read some of the horror stories about in-laws in this forum.......you don't have to deal with that crap. Your MIL might not be the most warmest/fuzziest/lovey-dovey person around but she's not making your life miserable either. If thins are going FINE in your marriage right now (MashaAllah)..............why on earth are you allowing yourself to develop negative attitudes that could potentially ruin things?
It's one thing if someone else is messing up your life on purpose..........but it's another thing when you're playing with fire yourself. You're better/smarter than that.