Re: feeling jealous and irritated
yeah, i understand how suffocating it must feel to be married to you! :(
Re: feeling jealous and irritated
what everyone else has as fleeting thoughts that they don't let linger or think about deeply you manage to make them stick in your mind and obsess over them to the put that you need to vocalise them and make it seem like real problem for you.
so yeh, get out more or get or hobby or get some professional help.
Re: feeling jealous and irritated
one, two, three. 
Re: feeling jealous and irritated
Why am I not surprised
Nadz you funny little school going girl! Awww 
Poor Nadz123 - getting lambasted by the Guppies and Guppans! Nadz has said what a lot of women think - but the only thing is she's honest (though not necessarily right).
At the risk of assuming too much about Nadz, but I think she uses GS to vent frustrations and to express personal doubts. Truth is by getting it out of her system here - she may have a healthier relationship with her family than the rest who let it consume them by internalizing their issues. The anonymity that GS provides allows her to be petty and immature (no insult intended Nadz) without anyone judging her - since she's thinking out loud instead of acting on it.
And come on - don't we all open up threads that have been authored by Nadz - her posts are like our Id - expressing what we may selfishly feel deep down - but control ourselves against expressing.
Someone has a really good suggestion earlier - Nadz needs a blog.
Poor Nadz123 - getting lambasted by the Guppies and Guppans! Nadz has said what a lot of women think - but the only thing is she's honest (though not necessarily right).
At the risk of assuming too much about Nadz, but I think she uses GS to vent frustrations and to express personal doubts. Truth is by getting it out of her system here - she may have a healthier relationship with her family than the rest who let it consume them by internalizing their issues. The anonymity that GS provides allows her to be petty and immature (no insult intended Nadz) without anyone judging her - since she's thinking out loud instead of acting on it.
And come on - don't we all open up threads that have been authored by Nadz - her posts are like our Id - expressing what we may selfishly feel deep down - but control ourselves against expressing.
Someone has a really good suggestion earlier - Nadz needs a blog.
thats why i say k women are @#$#$^$^%#^&%&%&
Re: feeling jealous and irritated
Is this thread a joke? You get jealous of his sister... and mother...... what kinda relationship do they have?
ew.
Re: feeling jealous and irritated
what does your husband think of all this? and where do you keep his balls?
queer
tussi chha gaye :k:
of his sister........................................
we live in the uk, his fam is back home....she is 2 yrs younger than hubby, she also has a younger bro whose a yr younger thanher, she doesnt get along with her younger bro as much as her older, my hubby....and she constantly whines that she misses him, and i get annoyed and for some reason bit jealous, and everytime she texts or even HIS MUM texts i get all possessive and run and give him a hug and make sure he stays away from the phone...i get annoyed when he suggests once a week to ring them...arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
if he buys his family gifts, it pisses me off, if he suggests he may contribute toward paying for some of their stuff, like fees for exams ( if they cannot afford) it gets on ym nerves..
hes mine, all mine all mine and noone else not even his mum can take him away from me.
ahem....
You need help that too ASAP:-). Goodluck.
what does your husband think of all this? and where do you keep his balls?
can a person still **think **with all these "restrictions" in place? :)
what does your husband think of all this? and where do you keep his balls?
Rotflol.
Poor Nadz123 - getting lambasted by the Guppies and Guppans! Nadz has said** what a lot of women think** - but the only thing is she's honest (though not necessarily right).
At the risk of assuming too much about Nadz, but I think she uses GS to vent frustrations and to express personal doubts. Truth is by getting it out of her system here - she may have a healthier relationship with her family than the rest who let it consume them by internalizing their issues. The anonymity that GS provides allows her to be petty and immature (no insult intended Nadz) without anyone judging her - since she's thinking out loud instead of acting on it.
And come on - don't we all open up threads that have been authored by Nadz - her posts are like our Id - expressing what we may selfishly feel deep down - but control ourselves against expressing.
Someone has a really good suggestion earlier - Nadz needs a blog.
guess im in the minority camp then
Re: feeling jealous and irritated
Jealous of the guys younger sister and mum when they are hundreds of thousands of miles away?
You sound like the kind of daughter/sister in law every family dreams of (!)
of his sister........................................
we live in the uk, his fam is back home....she is 2 yrs younger than hubby, she also has a younger bro whose a yr younger thanher, she doesnt get along with her younger bro as much as her older, my hubby....and she constantly whines that she misses him, and i get annoyed and for some reason bit jealous, and everytime she texts or even HIS MUM texts i get all possessive and run and give him a hug and make sure he stays away from the phone...i get annoyed when he suggests once a week to ring them...arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
if he buys his family gifts, it pisses me off, if he suggests he may contribute toward paying for some of their stuff, like fees for exams ( if they cannot afford) it gets on ym nerves..
ahem....
You best snap yourself out of this attitude soon, because this is exactly the type of mentality that has the potential to create problems with in-laws. In fact, in the few desi dramas where the DIL is portrayed as the antagonist......it's because of such mentality.
You wouldn't like it if your husband begrudged you spending time with your family (whether on the phone or in person)......and you wouldn't like it if he disapproved of you spending some money on your family. Yes,.........to a certain extent.......it's flattering to know that one's spouse loves them very much and wants him/her all to themselves. But after a certain point, it's not flattering.........it makes a person look needy......and that is usually a turn-off for both genders.
Also, why do you get so possessive when he's interacting with his family? That's what you need to analyze. Are you afraid that you're not important enough to him? Your feelings might be stemming from some insecurity or fear.
Try to understand that his family was in life for a much longer time before he started getting to know you on a deeper level. And his relationship with them is DIFFERENT from his relationship with you. The relationship he has with his parents and siblings CANNOT even be compared to his relationship with you. The interactions, expectations, and rights are all different. It's like comparing apples to oranges and it can't be done. This is the root cause of why MILS and DILS start hating on each other. One thinks the other is more loved. They fail to comprehend that the "love" one has toward their parents/siblings is different from what one feels for their spouse.
As far as spending money on his family is concerned...........it shouldn't be a problem as long as he's not neglecting his financial responsibilities toward the marriage. And i think it is said Allah wants us to spend money on our loved ones. Spend on others, and Allah will spend on you.
You're blessed, Nadz. When you read some of the horror stories about in-laws in this forum.......you don't have to deal with that crap. Your MIL might not be the most warmest/fuzziest/lovey-dovey person around but she's not making your life miserable either. If thins are going FINE in your marriage right now (MashaAllah)..............why on earth are you allowing yourself to develop negative attitudes that could potentially ruin things?
It's one thing if someone else is messing up your life on purpose..........but it's another thing when you're playing with fire yourself. You're better/smarter than that.
of his sister........................................
we live in the uk, his fam is back home....she is 2 yrs younger than hubby, she also has a younger bro whose a yr younger thanher, she doesnt get along with her younger bro as much as her older, my hubby....and she constantly whines that she misses him, and i get annoyed and for some reason bit jealous, and everytime she texts or even HIS MUM texts i get all possessive and run and give him a hug and make sure he stays away from the phone...i get annoyed when he suggests once a week to ring them...arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
if he buys his family gifts, it pisses me off, if he suggests he may contribute toward paying for some of their stuff, like fees for exams ( if they cannot afford) it gets on ym nerves..
hes mine, all mine all mine and noone else not even his mum can take him away from me.
ahem....
wtf...
if i was that guy.. i should say THE WORD three times.. and found someone else who has her mind intact at right place !...
Re: feeling jealous and irritated
Why is no one sympathising with her?
Nadz, listen to me, there is an easy solution. Pay someone in Pakistan to take his family out. Yes, each and everyone of them. Then u will have him all to yourself. Then smother him to death, it won't take long judging by your current behaviour.