Not everybody makes enough money to have a lavish wedding AND have their own condo/house immediately after marriage. These are real life expenses (like having children - which is an expense) that so many people just do not prepare for.
I see this argument quite often and while I kind of agree....it still assumes that most people who marry will be living in their own home immediately after, and that's not always the case....some live with in laws or if they live alone, they rent... For quite a bit # of couples, owning a home isn't an immediate priority but something that they might plan for after the wedding.
Deme - Its exactly the same at my end. In fact I even opened a thread on it. My family seems to WANT the burden as well. They feel that I am being nice to stop the expenditures when in heart I do want all the extravagance.
haha daffyduck I think we should let them do what they want. my family doesnt think im being nice, they say that im not letting them be happy. i understood that they really want to do things this way and so im not pushing them anymore. but whenever things get too rough i do mention gently that perhaps we can cut down a bit, and always I am told to hush up and to let them do what makes their hearts happy.
:) after all you and I are the only girls in the family. We should let them do as they see fit. They know that we are ok with a less lavish function, theyll be ok about it.
BTW, are u inviting me to your shadi OR NOT?
Deme - Its exactly the same at my end. In fact I even opened a thread on it. My family seems to WANT the burden as well. They feel that I am being nice to stop the expenditures when in heart I do want all the extravagance.
I always feel guilty… well not so much guilty more so angry. It’s money we could’ve spend on a down payment but both sets of parents HAD to have a reception and mehndi.
I had a decent wedding but did spent a lot for my jewelry and outfit. I know i will treasure my jewelry but still feeling guilty about the outfit, its so heavy that I dont think i will ever wear it again such a waste.
They say Simple tareekey se karo barkat hogi 