Re: Feeling extremely hurt!!!
^Yes, it’s good to help others. But Islam ALSO emphasizes that your own body (your health)…your family…etc have RIGHTS over you that can’t be ignored.
Okay, so you wanted to make her feel good…and acknowledge her for her successes. But that doesn’t necessarily require you to help her out with “ANYTHING” she asked for…and it didn’t even require you to take upon the responsibility of making her succeed in her work and studies.
While it’s good to help people and encourage others…it’s also important to back off and give them some space so that they can try accomplishing their goals on their own…which not only makes them feel more independent…it makes the success more enjoyable.
Chameli…you’ll come across people who will be more than happy to let you take of everything for them…they’ll start to see YOU as being responsible for things in their life…cuz you decided to take over that responsibility. And when something goes wrong…they’ll blame you…because you decided to take that responsibility. Again, you need to set boundaries. As the others have suggested, clarify the misunderstanding with this girl in person. If she doesn’t believe you…move on. And it wouldn’t hurt to reflect over why you’re forming toxic friendships…as that can help you from getting caught in the same mess again.
I agree with you but I think you misunderstood me here. I didnt take responsibility for her studies or work or anthing else. but would help her out when needed. in the beginning a lot. but since she joined uni I backed off a lot. so she has been doing it on her own…its not about that…
yes I agree that refelcting over toxing friendships will benefit me…a lot…
but this experience is way above my understanding…