Re: Feeling extremely hurt!!!
Your threads are usually about you being hurt (sorry, if this sounds harsh) and you are partly to blame for the mess you’re in. You knew the girl had a dual personality and psychological issues, but you decided to get deeply involved with her and her life. You didn’t want to be with her when she “suddenly got rude”??? You should have been more careful from the get-go.
And that’s your problem, Chameli. Why do you feel the need to help her out with anything and everything she needs? Why do you feel the need to make sure that she’s successful. Why do you bend over backwards to please others? Is it stemming from some sort of insecurity or need for approval? Do you somehow think that going out of your way to help others will make them stick around as your friends? See, when you bend over backwards to do stuff for people without setting boundaries and also considering your own needs…you send the message that people can take advantage of you…and when people think they can use you…they lose respect for you. You took it as almost your “responsibility” to help this girl out…so she felt that she wasn’t even accountable for her own actions or how she treated you. She got used to you being “responsible” for everything in her life…so she may have thought you were “responsible” for this mess too. Her psychological problems could also have played a role.
I would suggest that you get over the hurt…most past her manipulative betrayal…and don’t look back. Chalk this up to a learning experience and move on. No use dwelling over this girl …when you know you can’t control her actions…and you know she won’t apologize. What you CAN do is learn from your own mistakes and be more careful next time. Also, I agree with TLK. Never put anything in writing as it can be come back to haunt you. If you feel that you absolutely must clarify things…then do it in person. Otherwise…I’d just move on. And if she doesn’t believe you when you try to clarify the matter…again…move on.