My husband had to go on a business trip and won’t be home for a couple of days. 
I’m so depressed…I hate not being able to see him every day…I can’t concentrate on anything while he’s gone and I keep thinking about him day in and out…I miss him so much! 
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its only a couple of days :)
Me and my wife live apart almost all year long. I get to see her about twice a year for 2-3 weeks each time.
Next year insha'Allah we`ll be together. Cant wait.
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rani...just wrote something for u.....go n check ur journal! :)
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Pyarirani, whenever you are feeling low, think of Prohphet Peter tosh
Peter Tosh - Pick Myself Up
Sitting in the morning sun and watching all the birds passing by
Oh, how sweet they sing, and oh, how much I wish that I could fly
And I try, I said I try, I try, I really try, try, try
But I got to pick myself up and dust myself off
And start all over again
I got to pick myself up and dust myself off
And start all over again
Sitting in the midday sun and wondering where my meal's coming from
After working so hard not even piece a bread a mi yard
And I said I try, oh Lord, I try, I try, I really try, try, try
But I got to pick myself up and dust myself off
And start all over again
I got to pick myself up and dust myself off
And start all over again
Sitting in the evening sun and watching the same birds passing by
Sitting an wondering and waiting for the time for me to fly
And I try, I said I try, good Lord I try, I really try, try, try
But I got to pick myself up and dust myself off
And start all over again
I got to pick myself up, over and over, and dust myself off
And start all over again
So long and I just fine, it was just a waste of time
So long and I just fine, I been wasting all the time
I got to pick myself up, and dust myself off
And start all over again
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Try to come up with something creative. Take advantage of the time in hand and finish off pending tasks. If you are a housewife do makeover of your home or go shopping. If you are a career women, go to spa and treat yourself after work. If you have children and not able to do any of these then try to relax and spend time with your kids because they are the toy for us. Enjoy!
Call him if you can and ask him how he is doing. Trust me, us man maybe look and act stronger but inside we miss home and family a lot. And if its business trip, then work makes us exhausted and few good words form our loved ones give us enough energy to make one more day pass by. Please be supportive. You are strong and capable of anything. This will give your husband peace of mind and he doesn't have to worry too much about you.
I’m sure even though he doesn’t show it as much as he should but believe me he loves you a lot. And must be praying for your salamti.
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PyariRAni: Salaamz, i know how you are feeling. I have to deal with this kinda stuff once every three months. Alhumdolillah, my hubby does not go on business trips that often but when he does they are usually a week long. I don't have any kids so i am all alone. But, i usually do have fun while he is away. I look at the bright side of things, I don't have to cook, can spend almost all day at the mall. I do miss him while he is away so we usually talk about 4-5 times a day on the phone. And when i am packing his stuff i write little notes and put them in different places in his bags and briefcase. So, everytime he comes across one he calls me and it is a very refreshing feeling.
Don't miss him too much. He will be back InshaAllah and than you two can make up for it:) The day of his return what i do is usually prepare all his favorite dishes and that day goes by very quickly.
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I guess my situation isn't too bad but I still can't help feeling the way I do...thank you all for making me feel better, and thank you ek Ajnabee for your helpful post!
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Mahru > My husband also has to go several times a year, once every couple of months and one time he had to go three times in a month! You're right, I should think positively, for my own mental health if anything...there is no point in keeping myself under a dark cloud because as ek Ajnabee mentioned, it won't just affect me but him also so I should be more supportive. I usually talk to him every day, often before going to bed because I need to hear him before I can sleep. Writing little notes and putting them different places in his bag is a very cute and good idea for next time! Thank you so much for your motivating post!
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Thanks Rani, May Allah makes love stronger between you 2 as the days pass by. May Allah give you both health and happiness together and I pray that each morning when you see each other’s face you pay thanks to Allah for give a wonderful partner to spend your zindagi with. Respect is the strongest link keeps your love strong. So, may Allah shower his blessing on both of you by providing love, health, respect and happiness.
Stay connected with us these days and you will never know how these days passed by. It would be wonderful thing to tell your hubby!
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I know a couple...when the hubby is away for some reasons...she goes combing the streets...or talk to postman or milkman... :)
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ek Ajnabee > Thank you so much for your dua!!!
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PyariRani, It is best not to completely become dependent on your husband for emotional support. You need a life of your own. Develop some hobbies, maybe a part time job, take some classes, do volunteer work at a hospital, etc. I just can't understand how desi women so blindly depend on their husbands so completely. Don't you have a life without him?
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funguy > I'm a full-time student and I'm always busy with schoolwork and during the summer I either work or take more classes so I'm always busy...it's just that it's nice to come home and spend the evening with him and even if we're busy doing our own thing, we're still home together and I know he is okay. When he's away, I'm constantly thinking about him, worrying, making dua, asking Allah tallah bring him home safe and sound. I would say his welfare is the main cause for my anxiety...All of your posts are helping though so thank you. And I agree with you, we shouldn't be dependent on our husbands or for that matter anyone.
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It's a good sign that you miss your husband. Absence makes the heart grow fonder they say. But meanwhile take up a hobby. Read a good book, relax, work-out, go shopping, hang out with friends, watch a movie. I guess I'm a bit of a loner and independent. My husband has been extremely busy for the past 5 years and i was happy on my own. Appreciate the time you have together but feel confident in having your own life too. Are you a newlywed?
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great advice masha-allah:) hey can I come to you for advice when I need it?
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saimanyc > Thanks for the advice! We got married last year...
To all: I've been feeling much better thanks to all of your kind and motivating posts. Thank you so much, I really appreciate it!
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hey these lows and highs are just part of life...right now u feel low, when ur hubby will be back he will feel u up..thats just a circle of life..
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