Before I start I would like to say a big hi to everyone as I am new here, I have a question that’s been bugging me for a while (sorry if this gets too long.) The thing is I have 3 sister inlaws who are back in Pakistan 2 are older than me and one is my age, they r all un-married and I have started to worry about the two older sister inlaws future, they live in the city in a crowded “gali”.When ever a promising rista comes, either they walk away with out coming in to the house, saying they don’t like the area my sis inlaws live in or they say the girls r too old, (one is 27 the other is 32), either way it’s always rejection :(. It’s getting soo frustrating that ideas have started to come into my head… The idea in my head can be taken the wrong way but my intentions are right, I have a male friend that I met in uk, he had gone back to live in Pakistan now, iv always liked him as a person and he would be perfect for one of my sis inlaws only problem is he is rich and has lots of “nakhra”, his very fussy and expects too much ( girl should be pretty, same mind set, ect ect…)and because of that I didn’t bother asking him to marry my sis inlaw… Anyway I was thinking that mayb I should bring matters into my own hands and make a false Facebook account of my sis inlaw add my frd on her fake FB, chat with my frd pretending to be sis inlaw and have a FB romance, then when he wants to propose to sis inlaw then I will tell her and tell her to except him when he comes… My intentions r not wrong, my husband said the thought behind the idea is not wrong but the idea is 50/50 and could back fire… So here’s the question… Should I just go ahead with the idea and see what happens or leave it and let fate take control of my sis inlaws life???
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sorry to be blunt but the idea is in fact a very stupid one. i would strongly recommend that you stay away from your scheme of things. it's NOT even morally or religiously RIGHT! it's far fetched and may potentially bring a lot of harm to your reputation.
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@preciousheera it sounds like something out of "I love Lucy" and something Lucy would do. Watching that show always stressed me out. Could you possibly invite him over and have sis in law present as well. See if they talk at the invite. If it's meant to be it will happen and things will click between them after they talk with each other, if not leave it alone.
sorry to be blunt but the idea is in fact a very stupid one. i would strongly recommend that you stay away from your scheme of things. it's NOT even morally or religiously RIGHT! it's far fetched and may potentially bring a lot of harm to your reputation.
KKF how did you meet your wife? I always like to know how people that are matched well meet.
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Certainly not good idea. Instead try to look in your family or extended family (preferably in Pakistan) to find a suitable match for them.
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in case you drop the brilliant idea of yours because of some stupid reasoning of other posters, please please please add me to your fb account and lets chat. My FB id is Mohabbat_sub_k_leyee_Nafrat_Kisi_sai_nahi
Thankoo
PS: Are you really married? I have heard about child marriage but never came across any such child till now.
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Wow, make a fake fab account? That's just no. You don't ever do that, ever.
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No.
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KKF how did you meet your wife? I always like to know how people that are matched well meet.
i've met the gal but haven't married yet...waiting for the January wedding iA.
i'll soon share my 'daastaan-e-alif-lailvii' very soon on GS...:)
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Seriously its the most stupidest and dumbest idea ever while he may be rich and nakhre walaa you cant play with someones emotions in that way. You should focus your energy on finding a rishta the proper way and the right person will come along. Why are you taking so much tension.?!
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Do you really think your sil is going to appreciate you pretending to be her??
I would imagine most girls would be absolutely furious..
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This will backfire on you bigtime if he finds out and would your sister in law appreciate you getting involved in her business? Imagine if everything magical happens how you think it will in your mind, and in the future your sister in law admits that fb was never her or feels she needs to tell him, what do you think the outcome will be?
Lying and being deceitful is not a good way to start a marriage.
Just introduce the 2 via FB and let whatever happens happen. That is as far as your involvement should go.
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i think this is a very good idea. please keep us posted. 
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Firstly…the idea is STUPID. 
But moving past that…I’m amazed that your Pakistani husband is ok with the idea of you having a “FB romance” with a male friend! 
I think this idea has the likelihood of backfiring on you. This could potentially ruin your relationship with your sister in law as well as with your friend. Bottom line is; even while you have good intentions, it's not worth lying. Plus if you are going to be the one to "romance over fb" your replies and behavior is what is unique about you, it doesn't necessarily mean your sister in law would've conversed the same way, hence your male friend may enjoy your company but not your sister in laws when they finally meet. It's best to let her get to know him...baaki Allah ne kismat likhi hai
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That's the stupidest crap I've ever heard. Do you live in some Bollywood world where this would actually work? And why are YOU so desperate? Are u responsible for them being single? Habe your inlaws threatened to divorce you if your Nands don't get married? That's the only reason I can imagine that you're so desperate.
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Do you have a secret crush on this dude?
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@preciousheera
Have you been watching *Mujhse Dosti Karoge? *Cuz you know ... Rani had good intentions too, but look how things worked out in the end.
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Sure.......
would love to see how this would unfold :D
Why don't you guys have them come to wherever you are and be free of hang ups about the gali, and give them a chance to meet someone themselves.
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not a good idea. the better way is to talk your friend if he would like to consider your sis in law. if he says no, its better to put your efforts at the correct places to find the prospect for her.
if the area they live in is really that bad then talk to your in laws if they can rent out a house/apartment in some better area until the girls are married. i know it can be difficult but you can try.