Re: feeling bad and unclassy=(
It's not all about how much money you spend - it's definitely about what you make of the occasion..................
I spent £250 on my wedding dress, and only had the wedding reception hall decorated by professionals (not the Mehndi hall - that was DIY), spent only £250 on my wedding outfit and had traditional food and eating set up (think long tressle tables and paper plates!)..didn't have a valima or the dhol we'd planned (mum forgot to pick the dhol up from her friends house!), didn't have a "hen night".........BUT people to this day are saying that they have never had so much fun at a family wedding since our wedding......
This was said expecially at 2 recent weddings in the family one being my BIL's where they sepnt a fortune on food, clothes, decorating the halls and stuff......
I too felt like it wasn't upto scratch and that people would talk taht there was no Valima etc etc......but at the end of the day, it was my day...I was happy.......and hubby gave me loads of jewellery and clothes and stuff...which people didn't necessarily see...which have all gone to good use. Better to have spent on that than on things which only lasted the one day.........
Whats more important to me is that my family all came and made the effort to join in and had a good time.
And anyway......most people these days just go to the wedding, have the food and leave.....they don't even sit around and chat etc etc like in the old days!!!
I saw this at my own wedding, when so called friends o fmy mums were leaving the hall as I arrived in the wedding car!