Feeling alone

[Bobby1]

Re: Feeling alone

@akaprincess

He is ignorimg me. When we talk about my mom for ex, he said to bracd myself for what can happen, the fact that she will most likely not get better and to keep that in mind. He said stop thinking that she will get back to her old self. When i need his support, and talk to him, these are the answers he gives me. Then he compares his mom to mine, who by the way is in great health, there is no comparison. She was sick a few years back and is fine now, bit nearly to the extent of my moms condition. My mom is basically bedridden and cant even go to the bathroom herself, for over a year now while his is mA independent enough where she can do anything on her own at home. Why compare like that? It hurt me sooo much when he said that. I asked, are u saying i should lose hope of my mom getting better? He said that if u dont see progress, then stop thinking she will get better. And then he gets mad that i get mad over his thinking

Reason i mentioned kids is, if my own family and friends dont care much for me, why would my kids? It makes me sad to think of that

First of all people on GS are your friends also and they are here with you, men think and talk differently and most men dont know how to be emotionally supportive so it is not he is not supportive, men just dont know how. We feel it deeply but we don’t know how to express it. A mothers sickness is a difficult thing to deal with. When my wife went thru tragedies I could not verbalise a lot of support but she knew that I am there with her without me verbalising my support. The bond bw a mother and a child is the most amazing thing and it is magical. The other day I was thinking that I am the one doing most of the care giving for my teenagers like buying groceries, cooking, packing lunches, taking them to practice, planning unis etc and still they show 100 times more bonding to her They come running down to give her hugs. We are in the same shoes as you and don’t get along with either side and I actually see that as a blessing. Do you work, do you have hobbies, can you join volunteer organisations, go running, go to the gym?

I will promise you this that you will be a great mother and your children will love you to pieces.