Re: Feeling alone
No offence, but this is very old fashioned aunty type BAD advice.
I feel terribly alone sometimes and the fact i have 2 kids actually makes the whole situation worse.
I believe I feel more lonely now I have kids then before.
Yes you have “company” but it’s a child’s company. They NEED you and when a person them selfs feel needy of attention they will not want to be around another person who is also needy of attention too.
OP wants attention, she is not looking to GIVE attention.
When a person is feeling down and tired of theirs life the last thing they need is a crying, hungry baby.
Having kids is best when you are fully happy with yourself. Kids do not “cure” a husband wife realtion, nor do they cure depression or lonliness. They are a massive responsibility and should not be seen as a easy option to cure sadness.
Infact some “sane” individuals loose there minds after having children (postnatal depression anyone?) also, as silly as it may sound, some fathers can also suffer from depression after a baby as they feel sidelined or ignored. A once happy marriage can turn sour straight after a baby is in the picture, hence why so many people consider divorce after a child or end up having affairs.
The whole “have a child” advice is very bad and should not be given just like that.
OP, if you dont already then Why don’t you think of starting a career? Or join a hobby club? Get out and make new friends! Join a gym, that way you get a chance to meet new people and also work out, working out is good for the mind and body, something are lot don’t do enough of (especially the woman!)
You don’t want to get depressed as you are showing signs already… don’t lose hope.
When I feel alone I put my headphones on real loud and go jogging, it’s a temporary cure but it works for that time and helps me not “lose” it for the day.
I also do a lot of working out, whenever I feel like I’m going to scream I do ten squat, ten jumping jakes and ten burpees! I even do this at work, my work colleagues thought I was crazy when they first saw me do that, now they don’t even bat an eye! 