Re: Fed up with SIL
Honestly, based on the 3 statements above…I have no idea what the problem is. As long as she’s not being disrespectful/rude to you, then that should be enough. Just b/c you married her brother, doesn’t mean she needs to become your best friend. You wrote yourself that you two don’t have much in common. She obviously has a lot more in common with the other SIL.
Not every single person in that family is going to be close to you…nor do they really need to be. But since you feel that you’re becoming closer to everyone else…stay focused on that. Exchange pleasantries with this SIL…and let it go.
The ONLY time this needs to become an issue big enough to warrant a discussion with your husband is if the SIL is rude or disrespectful towards you. And according to what you wrote, that has not happened so far.
** On a side note: The SIL has been in that family since birth. Since you and your hubby choose to go to the house almost every evening/weekend, you’re the new person in this situation. It’s normal
for a girl to feel jealous in this situation. Not only is she having to share her brother with you now…she’s also having to share her parents with you almost every evening/weekend. Question: THe other SIL that she’s best friends with…does that SIL live with them OR are they over there almost every evening/weekend too?